Colleague/friend issue - WWYD

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I have a colleague who is also a friend that I've known 5 years. The other day we had a bit of a spat at work, nothing major, more like a miscommunication really. She ignored me after, I broke the silence by asking if we could talk. I apologised for my part, she didn't.
Since then she's been weird with me. Just off. It's bothering me but I feel like if she's still got things to say to me/still got an issue with me then she needs to initiate speaking to me about it.

Sounds like it was more major to them than it was to you

What would you do?

Well, she should discuss it with you, yes. But if she doesn't want to there isn't much you can do. I would just keep things cordial and professional with her.

feel like if she's still got things to say to me/still got an issue with me then she needs to initiate speaking to me about it.

She obviously feels that she doesn't.

I wouldn't do anything. Just leave her alone.

But they've already discussed it. The colleague obviously feels it's dealt with.

OP, ultimately, it sounds as if your colleague felt differently to you about whatever happened. And that's fine. Provided she's being professional about any work you do together, she isn't obliged to be anything more with you than that.

Just keep it professional. Are there others in the dept. Awkward though. Not much you can do.

Keep professional.

Less said soonest mended.

I'd keep it professional and write down every time she ignores you or says something that could be construed as bullying if it continued.

Also she might not want to talk to you about it and that's fine as long as it's not impacting your work

You had a disagreement, but you both said your points presumably.

Give it time. Maybe she's just having a bad time in general and is finding it hard to cope and is too fed up to talk about it. Its the weekend. Hopefully if you rise above it and remain professional, things will calm down, and then maybe things will be cooler to discuss with her more rationally.

It doesn't sound like a major problem or something where you need to particularly assert yourself. It only becomes that if she continues ignoring you, which is not professional.

ps when people are being silly and ignoring you, it can be so satisfying to calmly say. "goodbye Name, Have a good weekend. " etc. politely and without tone. It underlines that you are not ignoring her, and makes their behaviour look even more pointless, but also it opens the doors to continue as normal the next week.

I can’t bear passive aggressive behaviour and sulking - if she can’t use her words and say what’s still bothering her then I’d stop trying to figure it out. Leave her to either come round, or not. You sound like you tried to smooth it over, the rest is up to her.