To not feel like I have to entertain DH's friend when he pops round to pick something up?

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We visited DH's friend early last week and stayed a couple of hours (I hadn't been exactly keen to go as am 32 wks pg, have anaemia and was suffering from a bad cold, but knew DH would grump if I didn't go).

Then on Thurs evening DH's friend (same one) called to say he was popping round to pick something up but wasn't staying as he had things to do (btw I had been off work all week ill with the cold and SPD). I went to wash my hair as planned. DH is now having a go at me saying it was rude of me to wash my hair and not stay downstairs to greet the guests.

I don't think it was unreasonable to wash my hair really, was it?

No
Fucking ridiculous.
His mate,his call.

for the first part, yanbu to want to stay home if you feel unwell, am not really sure of the second part - bit of grey area i think xxx

You're not wrong for wanting to wash your hair, but I can see DH's point also. It could have come across as though you chose that particular time to wash it so that you could avoid his friend - even though it was planned. If he wasn't staying then a quick hello wouldn't have thrown your hair washing plan off track too much..

I think the question you need to ask yourself is "does my husband stay in the room with me and help entertain my friends and family when they are here" and if he doesn't then no, YANBU.

This sort of thing has to work both ways, not just one way.

nametaken - I see it works both ways in that if visitors arrive it is generally polite to stay around to say hello. In this instance though, he literally was popping round for 5 mins to pick up a cd (i.e. not actually visiting)

Oh in that case your dh is just being silly. Tell him you'r a wife, not a giesha

tbh if you're unwell, 32 weeks pregnant and he wasn't even staying then I don't even think this should be an issue- no you shouldn't have to stay around to say hello to someone who isn't even staying and isn't even YOUR friend. Would he have been the same if you'd have gone for a lie down, too?

I must be very rude then because I barely bothered entertaining my OWN friends when I was heavily pg, I mostly sat on the sofa, told them where the cups and biscuits were and said mine would be a coffee.

YANBU. You are heavily pregnant, you were not feeling very well, your DH's friend popped in for a couple of minutes and several days later your DH is going on at you about it?? IMO, he should never have brought this up with you anyway (doesn't really sound like anything that anyone should be getting upset over tbh), let alone let it fester for a few days. He needs to get a grip and understand that looking after you should be his number one priority at the moment, rather than upsetting you.

hows you feeling today? hope you feeling betterxx