To be peed off with DH's grumpy e mails?

[grumpyoldmen]

Just sent DH an e mail at work asking how he was and if he was having a busy day also what time should we expect him for dinner.

His response

"6 I suppose"

So I send one back asking

"what does I suppose mean, you don't sound too sure"

He replies with

"just except 6 o clock
It's not difficult is it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Am fed up of his grumpy responses.
He always sends short answers and never asks me how my day is going.

Why does he have to sound so abrupt,really gets me down.

maybe he is busy working

Maybe he's busy and doesnt have time for chat. I dont in a working day but external emails are not allowed anyway if not work related.

My dp used to be like this, and when I told him about it he was really surprised - apparently that is just the way he emails

Have you tried telling your dh (in a nice way) that it offends you? He may be oblivious

I know when dh isn't busy because he sends me bits of BBC news pages !

That is rude no matter how busy he is.

He works in an office on his own most of the time or with 2 others.
If he has time to type something it could be something polite.

It just pisses me right off and makes me feel like crap.

Obviously he is having a busy day and I am an easy target.

Feel like sending one back saying

"No,it is'nt difficult but living with you is"

Send him another one back with something mysterious in it like 'right, he's not back 'til 6 so we should be safe until at least 5.45.'

Bet he comes home early.

Why not just leave him alone to work? Ask him before he leaves the house what time he is expecting to be home so that you know when you have dinner ready etc.

I'd be pretty annoyed too if when I escaped to work, my partner still insisted on being in touch by making idle chat throughout the day.

I agree that his tone was quite rude, talk to him about that. But I also think you should just let him have some space whilst at work.

when to

your email was a bit rude as well tbh. Sounds like he was busy and didn't want to be interrupted.

Stop e-mailing him at work - that'll show him!!!

my dh's emails always come across as abrupt too, just how they come out, he isn't in RL

This is why we need Top Psychologists to work on the science of emoticons.

In the flesh, you can give a short reply in a tone and with a factial expression that convey 'I love you but I'm a tad busy'.

Emails don't allow that. All of my work-exchanges are by email I never meet any of my colleagues and I often agonise over a terse reply, which turns out not to indicate any hostility at all, only shortage of time.

Maybe I am being a tad unreasonable then

You can bet he will have an excuse now to pop to the pub for a quick pint now
as I was so unreasonable.

I would say "Do you mean accept not except?"

Yanbu. That sounds very rude. I'm assuming he is allowed external emails if you email him? Dh and I exchange lovely chit chatty emails throughout the day [smug emoticon]

My dh is known for the brevity of his e-mails/texts too, his responses range from "cool" to "Ok". Could his 2nd message have been intended to be jokey in tone? Could be read either way I think.

Wow, ProfYaffle, I am impressed that you get an "OK"..mine just says "K"

Verbose - that's my dh

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Stop emailing him at work.

Then after a few days when he realises he hasn't had any & asks why tell him it's cos he's a surly git.

don't ask in future.

and try to be out when he does come home

I sent him another e mail telling him to keep his hair on and was only asking.

His reply
"you can even argue on e mail can't you."
"What exactly is the matter with you at the moment?"

Erm have a grumpy husband and yes arguing is one of my many talents

Well he came in at 6.25 after having just nipped in the pub for a quick one and no mention of the e mails.

Yes,did ,mean accept not expect

He is allowed personnal e mails it's a family firm he works for so quite relaxed.