Heavily pregnant

[mammatobee]

Currently 36 and a half weeks with second baby. This pregnancy has been ROUGH, probably because I've got a toddler to look after too so not much chance of getting some rest. My toddler is all over me at the moment, constantly wanting to nurse and be touching me so I'm constantly overstimulated.
My OH works evenings 5pm-2am and is usually in bed for 2:30am.
Since my third trimester I've been really struggling with looking after my toddler espeically on a morning as he's an early riser, any time from 5am onwards he will wake for the day.
My OH usually gets up around 9am but since being pregnant I've asked a few times if he could get up at 7:30/8am so I could go back to bed and he can take over with our toddler and then both have a nap while the toddler naps.
If I ask him to come and take over with our toddler he either will but will make me feel like I'm walking on eggshells, huffing and puffing, slamming doors etc or sometimes he'll say he's too tired and gets up at usual time.
AIBU to think he should get up a bit earlier on the mornings when I'm really struggling? And not make me feel awful about it?
For context, with our toddler I did all night wakings and feeds so I've been surviving off broken sleep for well over a year and will be again soon when the new baby arrives. I'm also in pain constantly with my hips and having to lift our toddler and not even getting decent sleep at the minute anyway due to insomnia and waking up needing to pee every 3 minutes.
I know my OH needs a good nights sleep to function and go to work but at the same time I also need to look after myself and at the minute I feel like I'm hanging on by a thread :(

Yes I think he should. In bed for 2am and up for 8am is 6hrs sleep- far more than a lot of toddler parents get. Especially if he's having a nap later!
Is he on a schedule I'd see if he can do this on 3 set days a week so everyone is on the same page.

That sounds really tough and his unsocial hours must make life difficult. He is reasonable to need more than 5 hours sleep though - even at 9am he’s only had 6.5 hours. Can’t you go back to bed at 9am and sleep for the morning?

@Miloarmadillo2 i have been going back to bed at 9am when he gets up it's just been getting harder and harder to make it to 9am especially if toddler has been awake since 5am and I've got his morning routine to do by myself :(

At 36weeks pregnant I'd say tour sleep is definitely the priority. You need to be fit and healthy, no lowered immune system, for the birth.

He should be powering through

Try sending toddler to bed later.
Toddler might sleep in later.

Try all sorts of easier ways to care for toddler until 10 am.

• playpen.
• T.V.
• both of you in a safe room (door shut) with toddler playing and you lying on the floor half snoozing.
• baby sitter for two hours every morning.