Should I invite her?

[PinoGrejioh]

This Christmas I've invited my parents to join us for the day. DH gets on well with them.

MIL said she's invited a friend to hers for Christmas as she didn't want to be alone.

Should I invite MIL and her friend to join us?

Backstory - she's hard work, she will also stay the night whereas my parents will go home at 6ish. Also my DM does not like her, so it'll put her nose out of joint.

Wwyd?

Mil has a friend for company. Ask her over another day. Have a nice day with your parents. Simple.

Agree. Why make life harder.

Why would you? MIL has a lovely Christmas planned, leave her to it. Let your DM have a lovely day, too, without MIL.

Phew. I thought I was being selfish not inviting her.

Her friend is hard work too, constantly talking and very fussy with food.

My parents are very easy going and we'll have the evening to ourselves.

What does your DH want?

He said it's up to me!

Basically you are asking if you should ruin your Christmas and your mother's Christmas! Absolutely no need to do that. Your mother-in-law and her friend will be happy, you will be happy without her, your mother will be happy without her. All of you would be miserable with her.

Go out to lunch with them on Boxing Day.
She sees you, is not alone, but it's a couple of hours max.
No family issues.

That's his get out of jail card making you the bad one.
Sit down and have a conversation with him on it. It's not fair leaving the decision with you.

He does this all the time - makes out he's all laid back and it's up to me when really it's just leaving me the responsibility!

I'll hand it back to him 😆

Your MIL has invited her friend specifically so she won't be alone at Christmas or to prevent her friend from being alone. They might be planning to binge watch Rick and Morty or the stupidest Christmas movies going while chugging canned long island iced teas and testing all available types of mince pies. I would leave them to it and ask her for another day.

God no don't invite her. Enjoy your Xmas and have her over / take her out for brekky or something over the festive period.

MIL said she's invited a friend to hers for Christmas as she didn't want to be alone.

She's done an adult thing of organising her own Christmas fun. What made you think it was in any way a signal for you to invite her?