To think the youngest two should share?

[mumof3x99]

3 bedroom house. Planning to move to a bigger house in around 3-5 years max.

Mum & dad take up one bedroom, then there's 2 left

3 kids
1 boy aged 7
1 boy aged 2
1 girl aged 1

AIBU to think that the shared room should be based on ages, not gender?

I think it'll be more suitable for the two youngest to share the bigger room since they're at similar routines, play together more etc

And then my 7 year old son in the smaller room alone

Others keep telling me it should be the boys sharing.

I think you are correct. At those young ages boys and girls sharing really doesn't matter.

Others are not living in your house so, of course, do what you think works best for your family. I can't imagine how it would work practically to have 7 and 2 year-olds sharing. It makes no sense to me when their routines are so different.

Fine for the little ones to share.
Who are the 'others' telling you it's not OK, and why is it any of thier business?

Yes, the little ones share.

Toddlers together seems more sensible for now.

That will work until the girl hits 10 I reckon. Then she should get her own space

Babies can share for now but it needs to swap to the boys together in a few years even if you don't move.

For now, definitely the 2 youngest sharing.
You need to keep evaluating it tho - depending on when/if you move, you might need to switch thr rooms round in a few years - like 5+.

Yes we will definitely be moving whilst the younger ones are still primary aged probably when they're around 6/7 max thanks all!

We had this set up growing up (except oldest was a girl), the youngest two shared till they were 8&9 then swapped so boy got his own room.

Gender doesn’t matter when they are so young. Let the little ones share for now.

If you're sure that you'll be moving within that time frame, then yes it makes sense for the youngest to share.

No I think the boys should be sharing, and the girl has her own room. She’s also only 1, probably needs a quieter bedtime routine too. What’s the situation right now? Don’t be complacent, you might not be able to size up to a four bed.

I agree with you. The 7 yo likely sleeps well and needs undisturbed sleep so he’s not tired for school. I’m sure the youngest two will enjoy sharing more anyway. My close in age DS and DD shared as babies and toddlers, no problem

My 1 year and 2 year old have the exact same bedtime routine - dinner, bath and bed at 7, both go straight to sleep. I think the 7 year old needs more space to himself opposed to two toddlers.

I'm not going to go into detail about our situation too much but we will definitely be sizing up to a 4 bed. Worst case scenario we will be staying here and doing a loft conversion.

You’re lucky they both go to sleep. I just remember my son being so different with bedtime routines at either ages! We live in a 3 bed with one particularly large room where two children could share, but if we had 3 I know it wouldn’t work long term with no guarantee of moving house.

You are correct. But you need to regularly (like every few months not daily) mention in conversation that if you are still in a 3 bed house once the little girl is 6 or 7 then there will be a grand swaparound and the boys will share until you can upgrade to a 4-bed. The older boy needs to be used to the idea starting now because otherwise the fight when he is 12/13 will be EPIC.

Your suggestion is the most logical. The timing is good as well. I am hearing more and more young girls hitting puberty early. Which would be a hard line for me.

Little ones together! Our 2yr old boy and 1yr old girl share and it works perfectly for their age now. We don’t plan on separating them until they are older (at some point during primary school).

I don't think gender matters and it makes much more sense to me than the younger two share than making a 7 year old share with a 2 year old so the one year old can have their own room 🙄

You could always switch when they're old but sounds like you may have moved anyway

if you are council or social housing then you will not be liable for anything bigger than 3 bedrooms as they will say that 2 boys can share into the 7year old one is 16 so when your babies are 10 the boy will have to share with the other one

I agree, they are so young and you will be moving in three-five years which will be just right.

@Abbeyderby111 not council no, it's our own home

Gender/sex doesn't matter at those young ages. Youngest two should definitely share!

In Canada the law is that after 5 opposite sex siblings should not share a room. I follow that guidance.