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Which of these jobs should I choose

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Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 12:38

I am exploring some job opportunities outside my current role and I have been successful in an interview for another role. Now, I am bit confused about which job is better a new one or should I stay put in my current role.
My current job is civil service role at 70k and I get to work condensed hours in 4 days week with 30% pension contribution from employer. I have been for over 5 years in civil services and there are opportunities to progress to deputy director roles in future. Office is 15 mins walk or 5 mins on the bus. I have 2 young children in nursery and I can do 50% time in office and 50% work from home. 30 annual leaves, which are handy as DC keep falling sick. The job gets stressful at time with lots of responsibilities and being held accountable for the success of the programmes etc, but overall a good work life balance. Maximum time I commute is probably 10 mins each way and cost of commute is very cheap £4 per day when I travel to office, probably £40 per month. I live in a city in west midlands, cost of living is affordable and DH works mostly from home, 5 days a week.
The new job is in central London, similar level role in private organisation, a consultancy, commute
Needed to central London, 2 days per week, £100 per day for commute and total of 3 hours each day. Pay is £90k and employer pension contribution is 7%. I will be working 5 days week and won't be able to see much of DC 2 days of the week when travelling. DC are 1 and 4 years old, so still very young. The job would be stressful as it's to work with clients.
If it was you, what would you choose.

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Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 12:40

Also appreciate any tips for how you juggled work and life with young DC. Thank you for reading.

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Peanut91 · 19/11/2024 12:42

Hands down I would stick with your current job if it were me. I don't think you can underestimate what a benefit having a flexible employer is, especially one that is on your doorstep (comparatively) plus decent benefits. The grass isn't always greener and extra salary in your pocket isn't always worth it, especially when a considerable chunk of that extra will be eaten up on your commute

GreenSedan · 19/11/2024 12:44

There's no way I would change jobs if I was in your position with young children.

AdviceNeeded2024 · 19/11/2024 12:44

I would stay where you are.

I always think a long commute won’t be that bad but it’s always worse, and trains are so unreliable.

elastamum · 19/11/2024 12:46

I would stay where you are. The increase in salary will in no way compensate for the decrease in your quality of life.

theeyeofdoe · 19/11/2024 12:58

Taking into account the cost of the commute (which will only go up), the new job will mean that you're only approx £200 better off per month, but you'll have less pension contributions.

Factor in lunches on those 2 days in London and it's probably only going to be £120 better off.

I would absolutely stick with your current job for the time being.

AllTangledUpInTinselAndTiaras · 19/11/2024 13:00

I'd stick with the job you've already got which is pretty much ideal.

Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:04

Thanks for the comments. I think my current role would suit us better while DC are young.

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owlexpress · 19/11/2024 13:06

Why did you apply for the new role? Something must have pushed you to.

Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:07

My manager is hard work at times and I feel she isn't supportive of my work, that's the reason I applied for other jobs.

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mondaytosunday · 19/11/2024 13:07

Stay where you are.

beetr00 · 19/11/2024 13:07

@Darkchocolatte that would be an increase of ~£1200 per month.

Given everything that will have to be accommodated to fulfil the London role, is that worth it, for you and your family?

Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:09

Also, the new expenses would be DC doing more hours in nursery which will be additional cost, we will have to budget for.

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Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:22

owlexpress · 19/11/2024 13:06

Why did you apply for the new role? Something must have pushed you to.

My manager is hard work, that's the reason.

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owlexpress · 19/11/2024 13:25

Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:22

My manager is hard work, that's the reason.

Yes, we cross-posted. I think most managers are hard work tbh, better the devil you know?

ByHardyRubyEagle · 19/11/2024 13:26

That’s like choosing between two delicious desserts!

No33 · 19/11/2024 13:30

Stay where you are.

I just moved roles for a promotion with better money, but longer commute. I hate it. I'm already looking to leave after 4 months.

Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:31

ByHardyRubyEagle · 19/11/2024 13:26

That’s like choosing between two delicious desserts!

I am absolutely grateful for the opportunities.

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KeepinOn · 19/11/2024 13:32

Stay put, no question. But I covet CS pensions.

Darkchocolatte · 19/11/2024 13:40

No33 · 19/11/2024 13:30

Stay where you are.

I just moved roles for a promotion with better money, but longer commute. I hate it. I'm already looking to leave after 4 months.

@No33 that's a shame, hope you find what you are looking for soon.

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Photodilemmas · 19/11/2024 13:42

elastamum · 19/11/2024 12:46

I would stay where you are. The increase in salary will in no way compensate for the decrease in your quality of life.

This this this

I can't believe you're even considering it to be honest!

Evaka · 19/11/2024 13:54

Don't budge from current role! That pension more than makes up for the difference in salary and the commute will be hideous.

MsMajeika · 19/11/2024 14:32

This is a no-brainer! Stay where you are. You can't put a price on quality of life.

ThianWinter · 19/11/2024 14:49

Stick with your current job. Your manager might leave and be promoted, if they are the main reason for you wanting to change jobs.

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