To think there is something strange with my neighbours

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New neighbours moved in a few months ago. Hard to work our who lives there. Have passed them in the street and said hello trying to be friendly, but they don't engage. Middle aged woman seems to be the only consistent one at the property. She regularly walks up the street, waits outside someone else's house for 10/15 mins, eventually someone comes and picks her up in a car. Later on sge gets dropped off but never outside her own home. Have seen semi official people talking to her on the street - they wear lanyards. She never seems happy to be speaking to them. It always looks quite heated and she seems very defensive.

It just seems odd that if she's waiting for a lift, why not just wait in her house or on her own drive. Why does she never invite the lanyard wearing people in.

I know I seem like a right nosey neighbour, but I can't help feeling something isn't right with her. What if she needs some help? Is she a victim of people smuggling/modern day slavery?

AIBU yes - mind your own business and keep well our of it
No - it is odd and you should follow your gut.

She could be dropped and picked up by a work colleague and doesn’t want them to know exactly which house she lives in ?

If you see a lanyard person again, try to ask them...say you are concerned re neighbour

I can see why it’s interesting but I think as she’s clearly got some people looking out for her I’d just leave it.

Thank you OP for keeping a lookout for your neighbour.
I think all you can do is keep an eye out, and ask for advice/help/report if anything unsettling happens.
I hope there's nobody in need of help from some of the posters on here today. Keeping their nebs out, minding their own business.

If I was a lanyard wearing representative of social services or the housing department or some government department I would not be telling nosey OP her neighbour's private business.

Unless you want to speak to her and genuinely enquire about her welfare, then do something meaningful about it if things aren't ok, you should just keep your nose out really.
The officials of which you speak are bound to be from SS or carers. As long as there's no obvious signs of abuse or illegality just take it that she's not very outgoing or sociable and has her own private problems.

Well, when there’s something strange in the neighbourhood, you know who to call….

I would 100% sit by the window and watch!

You would LOVE my street! 🤣

i have a neighbour who has 4 children, wife died, new gf within weeks, he moves in with new gf and leaves children aged 16,14,12 and 6 to live on their OWN! Family member comes round every morning with food and I’m guessing to get everyone ready for school. Dad denies moving out and is adamant he still lives there! He doesn’t!

That’s just one house! There’s more but I don’t want to be identified 🤣

I would absolutely consider intervening to get someone help if it was needed. But isn’t it abundantly clear that services are already involved with OP’s neighbour, given the frequency of their attendance? The biggest problem evident on this thread is a severe case of nosiness, and there’s no reason why the woman receiving the help from services shouldn’t have some privacy about their precise nature.

Seems like you’ve described me but changed some details. On the off chance you’re talking about me, I have complex PTSD. I don’t have family support. I don’t have carers, but I had mental health workers and I have a mental health social worker. I have someone that comes to visit me for a chat or to take me out. I am a high functioning autistic and I am frustrated with the lack of reasonable adjustments I’ve faced, I can be blunt and assertive. I have a profile that explains my needs which they often ignore.I can find conversations stressful because they have form for asking me about traumatic experiences. could go on but I won’t.
what concern do you have for them?

On a side note...

Anyone can shove a lanyard on in the same way a person wearing a hi viz comes knocking your door just to let you know they're working in the area doing your neighbours roof/driveway and noticed you have a tile loose or they have shingle left over....
Or
Are selling handkerchiefs but either omit to tell you they're at overly inflated prices....

But it doesn't mean they're kosha .

I hope the woman is ok.

I would imagine they'd be very unlikely to tell her anything.

Do's she work for a Charity place maybe? or are they a sales team in the area?

You’d sit and watch someone who is probably vulnerable and just trying to get on with their business the best they’re able?
Jesus.

I'd probably just get to know them.

Actually lol no that's a ridiculous concept theses days!
No, I think I'd embrace the modern way by curtain twitching for a while, making a mental note of what I'm seeing and then start a pointless thread on the internet inviting bored strangers to speculate with their opinions.

Captain , I only said that as it's obviously driving OP mad enough to write this thread.. If I were lanyard wearing person, personally I'd give short shrift!

And I detest nosey neighbours, having grown up opposite the worst one ever (she still is.. she knows EVERY detail of my mum's business... although it worked out well recently when some relatives we'd not seen for 20 yrs turned up on my mum's door step, my mum was visiting my dad in his new care home and neighbour told them exactly where to find him! My mum had never told her, by the way!)

I personally think what you've just said is far worse than what you quoted.

Why would you do that though? Its clearly social services of some sort and she clearly has some crisis going on. It's nothing to do with the OP, and it is - to be frank- embarrassing that the OP it has anything to do with her and the subject of speculation. People's lives can be incredibly complicated and difficult and don't need some random looking at them and writing about them online. People who don't get this have obviously had a charmed life, relatively speaking and need a proper hobby.

Have you reported that to social services?

Right. I can't imagine the day I would be so focused on people's lives like this. I would be embarrassed lol

But if there are several a day it makes it more likely.