Smoking family members

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Blueyfan20 · 18/11/2024 19:27

Hi everyone

Was hoping to get some opinions….

We are going to be visiting family over Xmas and they are smokers.

They are heavy chainsmokers and will not listen to us when we ask them to change clothes and clean up. Along with waiting the 30 mins after a cigarette like the NHS recommends. They smoke in their house and car constantly.

They are very hostile whenever smoking is mentioned because they know we won’t allow it near our baby. We have had many arguments over it.

I am not comfortable having them hold/kiss our baby when they smoke so much. As mentioned earlier they will not clean up/change their shirt before wanting to hold our baby. I don’t know if it’s unreasonable and would like hear some opinions/get some advice.

We are after reassurance and/or solutions that we are doing the right thing and not being “overprotective”

We are just trying to protect our baby.

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Marblesbackagain · 18/11/2024 21:02

GoodLaudanum · 18/11/2024 20:14

The danger lies in more regular contact than once a year. The guidance is referring to smokers who hold the baby frequently. Once a year is negligible.

What about the nursery workers, doctors, nurses, paramedics, even midwives that smoke that may need to hold a baby. They don't all change their clothes every time they have a cigarette.
Even in the restaurant there will be plenty of people that pop outside between courses for a cigarette, and a lot of kitchen workers smoke - trust me!

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And that's why lots of professional childcare settings hire non smokers, it's not a protected status. You re not gonna to know until you meet your list of people but I like a lot of parents refused and made choices in our childs health interests.

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