Birthday present

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I have a significant birthday in a couple of weeks. Husband asked what I’d like. I suggested a nice watch. I’ve only ever had a cheap watch, the last one I had I’ve had for years, it’s now broken and before that it’s had 2 new straps. I love wearing a watch, much better than a phone for telling the time.
Husband really likes watches. He has at least 3, all quite expensive brands. Whenever we happen to pass a jewellery store, he looks at the watches.
we went and looked in local town Saturday, but very uninspired by their stock- husband pointed out a couple of watches. £69. Hmmm.
This is a significant birthday- I feel £69 is a ‘bit cheap’. I googled and showed him a watch I liked, not too big, not blingy, but a few hundred pounds. A brand name, investment piece. He laughed and said not spending that much! (He would easily spend more than that on his own watches!). For context, for his last big birthday I booked and paid for trip to Isle of Man TT.
aibu to think £69 is too cheap?

Yeah his reaction was not great. Does he not value you in other ways too?
lond time ago I showed a ring I liked to an ex that was pricey (not in the context of buying it, more in the sense of ‘what a nice ring’). He saw the price and said no woman is worth this kind of money. I couldn’t unsee it and dropped him quickly.

I would point out how much you spent going to the TT and how much his watches cost then advise him to think on it a bit.

Tell him he's a thoughtless, selfish twat and to piss off.

Then order yourself the lovely watch.

Consider divorce. Make sure you don't spend a penny more on him

Divorce over a cheap watch?! Yeah totally worth blowing your life apart over!

YANBU OP, not sure it's divorce worthy without a massive back story, but I'd absolutely point out what you spent on him for his birthday and what a cheap bastard he is being.

I would be having a proper conversation about mismatch is spends and also how his dismissive comments made you feel. How he responds to that conversation will tell you more about how he values you I think.
It's interesting he buys himself a watch of X value - so I wonder why you even need to wait for a gift, don't you deserve to buy yourself a watch of equal value from the family money? We'd certainly be fine with that in our relationship.

It's symbolic of the relationship. He doesnt see her as an equal to him

Buy the watch yourself and fuck him. And don't get him anything in future.

How mean.

A few hundred worth of watch is not much to expect for a significant birthday. If you want it, buy it and give him the bill for it.

Is he generally tight with his own money?

1. Make sure he knows how much you spent on him last year
2. tell him not to bother buying you a cheap watch, you’d rather he didn’t bother
3. buy the watch for yourself and take yourself out for a glass of something to celebrate.

What a mean arsehole.