To worry about DH not following through?

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The gym DH and I go has this thing called an "angel tree," which is a Christmas tree decorated with little angel ornaments, which have children's age ranges and genders on the back of them. Members are invited to take ornaments from the tree and purchase gifts aligning with the info on the back, and bring them to the reception desk to be distributed to families in need.

Yesterday, DH took two angels from the tree, and said he plans on taking another two from the tree at the other gym location to which we go. I thought that was very kind and generous of him, and I know we can afford it no problem... It's just that, on the way home, he was musing about what to purchase, and said "Might as well just every kid a tablet and be done with it." Which just felt like a really.... tasteless? thing to say because our own child is having behavioral issues that we both agree are probably related to her tablet usage.

I have this worry that he won't actually shop for appropriate toys, or purchase anything at all, and then I'll have to be the one who goes out and gets the gifts in addition to the ones I already have to get for our family members. I feel really stressed about it, but I'm not sure where that worry is coming from. I know I haven't even given him a chance yet, but the closer it will get to Christmas without him doing it, the less time I'll have to get it done if I have to step up...

AIBU?

It does sound a little pretentious, but the overall concept is nice, I think. And if it helps get more gifts out to needy children, why not stroke people's egos a bit?

Do the tags have a suggested price range so one kid doesn't get a tablet and another gets a toy dinosaur?

I wonder if behind the scenes they share the gifts out to avoid that sort of thing happening.

No price ranges. I'm not certain, but I think the gym people wrap all the gifts, sort them by gender and age groups, and have the parents take them without knowing what's inside. That's what they did at another program I've participated in.

I think you’re overthinking. Amazon 4 clicks. Done. All arrives gift wrapped. If it makes life easier for you, then leave it to your dh to do. He probably will. I’d be delighted that my husband picked them up, what a lovely thing to do. It wouldn’t bother me who actually did the Amazon clicking. But if it bothers you, then leave it to him. You’ve already got people slagging him off for a potential future minor misdemeanour. A bit much really.

This is the sort of thing that would stress me out as well. DP struggles to organise anything which is why our DC cousins will probably not get their birthday presents (from the summer) until after Christmas (advice is obviously always to let him get on with it for his own family) and I hate it when it feels like he is letting somebody down plus when it impacts on me to sort stuff he has forgotten

That sounds good.

I know it doesn't answer your question OP, but I'm glad you posted. I'm going to have a look for one local to me.

It would be nice to spread some happiness.

Just let him get them each a tablet.

The children will be absolutely stoked and it will be handy for them to do homework at some point. Make it android though so they don't get swallowed up by apple for the rest of their lives.

I’m not sure a high value present is a good idea as if the family is struggling they might end up selling it - it just seems a bit crass to give their child an iPad if they can’t afford to put food on the table.