Grandparents and Santa

[Wasfeelingfestive]

I have a touchy relationship with in laws at best so don’t know if I’m over reacting or not. I have a ds who’s 2 1/2 and he’s been getting excited for Xmas this year we’ve been talking about it and showing him Santa and he’s understanding it a bit more. We were in his granny and grandas house yesterday and talking about what Santa was going to bring him when granda turned to him and said I am Santa. Ds must have remembered this as he’s mentioned it to me a couple of times today and I’m trying to now tell him granda was being silly but he’s adamant granda was right and I’m just a bit annoyed. It was going to be our first Christmas where he has a bit of an idea what’s happening and now I feel this has just confused him for no reason

Your child will survieve. Just let child know granddad is being silly. But yes granddad could do better.

Just tell him grandad was being silly. He's young enough to forget it. But why did his grandad say that? How odd.

They have form for saying and doing stupid stuff with ds which is the main reason we have a touchy relationship, they wanted Santa to come to his house every year too at the start and huffed a bit when told we wouldn’t be doing that so I don’t know if he’s trying to pull that back a bit again

He'll forget, just say it was a game. Act like you would if he'd said he was Paddington bear or something - you'd treat it like a silly game and it would be forgotten very quickly.

Take your DS to visit Santa somewhere so he can see that it's not grandad.

You cant actually expect other people to support the Santa fantasy. Most people won’t contradict you, but there is no obligation. You would be wise to avoid discussing it outside of your immediate home unless you are at a Santa event.

It's not the end of the world and your child will survive. Grandparents sometimes say daft things but hopefully it wasn't meant to be spiteful.

its pretty poor behaviour to ruin the fun of Santa for a 2.5 year old though.

I doubt the OP is trying to force her father to believe Santa is actually real, she’s just trying to make sure her child has a nice time.

Most normal adults would be able to play along for this purpose regardless of their feelings on it.

Soppy old duffer. Fancy saying that to a two year-old

Mountain out of a molehill. You just tell your child that grandpa was just pretending, because he thinks being Santa would be lots of fun.

Perhaps say He thinks he is Santa as he also likes getting you presents.

Hmm - I knew an older man who did this. Turned out he had a brain tumour and his sense of what was appropriate to say was declining fast.
Far likelier he's just being a dick.

I think this is one to make your husbands problem - Cheers Dad. FeelingFestive Jar was really excited about Santa and now he doesn't know what to believe. Rein it in would you? You did Santa with me, don't spoil my opportunity to do it with FeelingFestive and Jnr.

And tell your son that sometimes Santa asks old people that look like him to help him. Does't mean that Grandad is Santa, just that he is delusional