Is 'get therapy' the new trend on here along with 'be kind' ?

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Trends come and go on MN, there was a time when a lot of peeps would advise a spa day for everything even the smallest problem and now it seems to be 'get therapy' for everything. If you get it through work or private health care fair enough. NHS could wait months if not years, so many people will fall through the net and can't access it.
The other trend is 'be kind' 'it's not kind' et al. Only a few months ago many peeps were saying that they were fed up with being nice and kind for everything just because they were women. Men wouldn't be expected to do the same. This is totally wrong of course, but why the kindness trend on here?
Some posters will come along and twisted this thread beyond its intention as they generally do. But I can't get wound up by them at the best of times.

If therapy is useless, why would you think it's suitable for people in 'serious situations'?

Therapy can be life-changing but takes time to access and work and is not cheap. It can also make things worse before it improves them, as someone unthread says, it uses a lot of mental and emotional energy. Saying ‘seek help’ can be a bit tone-deaf if it’s someone who has a lot going on and who clearly hasn’t been willing/able to thus far in their difficult life. ‘Have you thought about speaking to a professional’ isn’t bad advice but it isn’t always worth writing. It can also come across as dismissive.

I too remember the spa days. Facing an unlawful eviction? Man kicking fuck out of you? 13 y.o smoking skunk? Get that fluffy bathrobe on girl!

Maybe we should actually try to help, in whatever limited way we can, by offering considered support and good-faith advice tailored to the poster (wild idea, I know).

there is only therapy on the NHS if you got beyond crisis point. I know various people who need it badly, but cannot access it due to long waiting lists. Someone close to me tried to take their life recently and is still waiting.

If, in your words, a therapist is only going to ask "how does that make you feel" then why would it be any good for the serious stuff?

There are so many types of therapy and what works for one person may be a disaster for someone else - similarly one therapist could be great for me but awful for Jane down the road.

@Mebebecat that's concerning. When I was working as a CBT therapist in the NHS I needed a post grad qualification, a core profession, accreditation with the BABCP (with reaccreditation every year and ad hoc audit of my work), close supervision and ongoing training obligations. Though the term 'therapist' is not a protected title I wouldn't say that my colleagues were without training, skill or knowledge.

Some posters will come along and twisted this thread beyond its intention

Not sure what your intention actually is. But anyway my local Health Trust allows people to self refer for 6 weeks of counselling. Some people will require more than that but I think it's a good start.