To say he needs to stop looking at porn...

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Or I'm going to find someone else to sleep with?

Long story short ...partner isn't interested in me sexually, not sure he ever has been tbh. Claims he is but actions say otherwise. Looks at porn all the time but denies it. Says he doesn't want to break up but I can't stay in a sexless relationship. Have talked multiple times in the past and nothing changes, or only does short term. Is good partner other than this. 1dc aged 6. Would have left ages ago if not for DC

YANBU about the porn
YABU about finding someone else to have sex with

When you've spoken about it before, has he given a reason for the lack of sex? On the info given, YANBU. If you don't want to live your whole life in a sexless marriage that is a) perfectly understandable and b) your right to decide.

It sounds as though he is a porn addict.
If he isn't even admitting he has a problem he will never change.
You would be better leaving the relationship.

I think it's fine to not want to be with someone who is heavily into porn but won't have sex with you.

It's reasonable to say what you will and won't do as a result of your feelings around their behaviour, not telling other people what they can and can't do.

Hmmm, don't think he's an addict as such but he has a lower sex drive than me and prefers porn to sleeping with me. He doesn't look at it a huge amount but is closed off in terms of sex. I said to him tonight if he continues with it I will look outside the relationship as I view them a as thrr same thing. I'm sick of being ignored for an image on a computer

To add, I'm not totally adverse to porn and realise it has it's place, however not willing to go on being sidelined for it

This is just a bunch of BS and excuses you’re making up for him. I’m sure you knew he was an addict and/or watched porn before you got with him officially and had his child but still chose to go ahead with the relationship. Leave the relationship or don’t complain.

You what? I knew he watched porn (as have most of my previous partners) I have never had this issue before, hence the frustration

I love your username ! YANBU. How would he feel about you having sex with someone else? I would really struggle with this-it’s not good for your self-worth.

Bloody porn... causes so many problems.

I think the main issue is how he makes you feel

If a man looks at porn but is still regularly interested in sex with his partner and makes her feel loved, valued, beautiful and desired that's not the same issue as what youre going through. If he never wants to go near you because he's watching porn that's not OK.

It sounds like you're generally unhappy together. And maybe better off not with him in general