DH is always talking about food. It never bothered me before kids. We have Young kids and he’s always talking to the 3 year old about food and it’s really starting to annoy me!
Her birthday has just been but for 9 months before every time her birthday was mentioned he’d say ‘What cake do you want?!’ Or ‘We’re going to eat SO much cake!!! Are you excited for the cake? How big do you want the cake? How many cakes do you want?’ ‘Ooo shall we get the cake and eat it all?!’. Any birthday occasion for friends/family he always discusses the cake with her and tries to get her as excited as he is.
We sit eating breakfast and he’ll be talking to her about what we’re going to eat for dinner / tea trying to hype it up. I’ve had to tell him many times if we’re having a pudding not to mention it to DD as she won’t eat her tea if she knows there’s something sugary after and I don’t want us to make a big deal about having treat foods. Or any type of food at all. I do restrict ‘treat’ foods as they don’t miss what they don’t know at this age but I don’t ever tell DD this she will just eat whatever’s in front of her anyway so sometimes she gets them, sometimes she doesn’t.
Today at dinner he’s getting excited about a Christmas dinner and trying to get her excited too, then in the next breath he’s telling her what we’re having and whenever Christmas is mentioned it’s always are you excited for the dinner?! What are we going to have etc. Every morning before nursery he’s like what will you eat today??? And then he discusses what we’re having for tea.
AIBU to ask him to tone it down?? I don’t want to hurt his feelings as he and DD have a great bond but I worry that it’s unconsciously instilling bad habits into her. I don’t want her to be thinking about food as much as he does, she’s 3! Christmas is about family time and Santa and trips out and singing Christmas songs and playing, I don’t want her hyper focused on food all the time!
DH has always had an unhealthy relationship with food, he’s a binge eater and really struggles with his weight. His whole family are obese and I blame his parents for the way him and his siblings are as he was big as a child too and has suffered immensely his whole life because of this and still does to this day. I just don’t want our kids to go through the same. I don’t even think he realises how much he talks about food with our DD but I don’t think a 3 year old needs to be thinking about what she’s having for breakfast dinner or tea or what kind of food is going to be wherever we end up going. Maybe I had a strange upbringing but I don’t remember having these types of conversations as a child unless I asked, I just got whatever was dished out.
AIBU to want to nip this in the bud? Or does is sound not as bad as I think it is? I feel like a cow if I mention something.