Lost in a world of horrible people....

[Emm220884]

Are there nice people out there anymore?
Feeling so very down and wanting to just hide away from everything.
My sister doesn't acknowledge my existence. My partners 4 children have asked to see me today and 1 of them managed to say a couple of sentences to me over an hour period. (We've been together almost 6 years, and I wasn't the other woman).
I'm pretty easy going, I want an easy life and I just feel absolutely beaten all of the time. I want to be able to have this don't give a toss attitude, but I'm literally broken.

How do you manage this?

Don't take it personally. You're not responsible for other people's behaviour.

You just have to practise acceptance about the things you can’t change, and spend all your energy on those who appreciate you.

Concentrate on things that make you happy.

For me it's my DH, my dog, audiobooks, cooking and baking, the lovely little town where I live...

And don't give the horrible people any of your time and energy. Or if you have to, then just the minimum.

Join a club, a society, an activity or do some volunteering for a cause close to your heart and you will meet some lovely like-minded people. They are out there. Some others we have to just tolerate.

Well, you have a partner of six years, so I assume he is not horrible to you?

And the kids asked to see you, so they must view you as important. You said one of them hasn't said much, but what about the other three.

The thing is, if you look for negatives in your life you will find them. There are a few negative people in my life that I can't do much about other than limiting interactions to a need-to basis and accepting they are nobs (and also accepting it's probably mutual).

So look for the positives. You will find them too.

Presumably your sister didn’t suddenly stop speaking to you out of absolutely nowhere apropos of nothing, and you have some sort of awareness of what happened between you? If your stepchildren are actively asking to spend time with you, then they can’t dislike you that much. How old are they? Teenagers can often be a bit sullen even around those they care about.

Declaring everyone around you to be “horrible” and therefore none of the situation your fault is easier than confronting what the issues are, what your role in them might be, and trying to address them. If it upsets you this much then the latter really is the way to go.

@Emm220884 never take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from .
I know what you mean though, lots of people have "main player energy" and are rude and dismissive of others.
Society has changed rapidly and I'm personally unsure it's for the better .

Yes there are two categories of people - nice or nasty. It’s that simplistic. Or people are more concerned with their lives and don’t always live up to our expectations we placed on them.

There’s a bigger backstory with your sister. And why in the world would your partners children ask to see you to then not want to speak to you?

What's the back story with your sister? And even if they haven't got the best social skills, your partner's kids must like you if they asked to see you? (How old are they?)