Bit of background - we have had a very very difficult 3-4 years because my husband has been suffering from clinical depression, anxiety and paranoia.
It took me a very long time to persuade him to go to the doctors, we have had a few changes of tablets after months of something not working - he has already been discharged by 1 psychiatirst and we had to fight a lot to get him seen by another.
He is now under the care of another psychiatrist, and has a new cocktail of drugs and is actually doing very well.
He was in the USA on business last week, and he has been awful to live with since he has come back. I took the girls out all day on Saturday (literally all day, we left at 7am and get back at 7pm) so that he had as much of a chance to sleep off his jet lag as he could, and go to the football. He staggered back in from the football at 8pm, monosyllabic and critical of everything I said or did.
Yesterday all he could do was grunt and fiddle with his laptop and phone (I now have 2 dds with chickenpox, have a cold myself, and had them full time by myself last week while hewas away and would just love 10 mins to myself)...couldn't even speak to me 98% of the time.
Finally I dragged it out of him that he had had no medication for 8 days....too busy planning his trip to the USA to go to the drs, or even phone for a repeat prescription. Even if he phones today and even if they will give him his medication without seeing him (which to my mind they shouldn;t as these are strong drugs and can't just be doled out) it will be at least another 2 days before he can get any.
I've been told not to interfeed and "mother" him too much in the past, so I have left him to be responsible for his own drugs....but he is clearly not managing it.
Would I be right to phone his psychiatrist's secretary and at least let them know that he can't manage his own medication - we have no support at all as far as CPNs or anything goes and I'm wodnering if that might help us get some CPN support.
Why do they diagnose people as ill, and then don't put things in place to ensure they get better - they have continually been "unable" to take any heed of what I say because of confidentialty issues, however I lvie with him and have a far bettle handle on how his illness is than he does - 99$% of the time he thinks he is find, and its just everything esle thats conspiring against him and being awful and ridiculous...The first psychiatrist decided after seeing him for 45 minutes that he could discharge him but wouldn;t listen to me who lives with him all the time
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...to think my 38 year old Dh is big enough to be in charge of his own medication...
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Alderney · 28/04/2008 07:39
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