An immediate family member was diagnosed with cancer a few months back. Needless to say it was a horrific time but thankfully they got the all clear after surgery.
However I can’t help but think about how I felt let down by friends. If I had a friend in my situation, I would be sending a text now and again to see how my friend’s loved one is doing and checking that they are ok too.
Instead, my closest friend texted me about normal stuff and didn’t mention the diagnosis.
An old friend who I had recently reconnected with also never bothered to check in, even though they knew the date of the big results (finding out all clear or not). They did always have form for being a flaky friend.
Both shared sympathy when I told them face to face but I would’ve expected more from them. They both know my family member as we are childhood friends.
The only reason they now know about the all-clear is because I proactively told them.
Am I being too sensitive? Perhaps they felt awkward and didn’t want to intrude? They both are busy people with lots going on in their life - albeit nice things.
It’s making me want to distance myself from these friendships. However these people are currently going through nice times - big life milestones etc and I am worried they will think I look jealous. When in fact I am just hurt and shocked. It feels like a shadow that will haunt our friendships now.