It's a very long story which I won't be able to adequately capture here, but I'll try. A family member who is in their teens has since a very young age always been challenging for the whole family - think destructive and disrespectful. The family, including DH and myself, have spent so much energy and time trying to get them on the right tracks, particularly as the parents didn't really step up as you'd expect them to.
Fast forward to now, there's physical violence towards the parents, drug use, manipulation etc.
After many years, and many attempts to keep our dcs away from the chaos we now have said enough - we won't be around the family member anymore and our kids will never be in the same place as they are. This will inevitably mean we won't be able to go to some family events etc.
It seems really obvious to me that we'd protect our kids who are under 10, and probably should have gone with my instinct much sooner, but cannot help feel that everyone in the family is so desensitised to the situation that i am deemed as being too precious.
Is there a better way that I can deal with this? I don't want to turn my back, but my kids come first, especially given the ages they are.