The only one not on the WhatsApp group

[Nextdoorneighbourly]

Found out today that our whole street is included on a WhatsApp group except me.
it was made by my neighbour. She has said sorry but we were away when it was made in the summer and then she forgot. I don’t get it- we get on well and you don’t need to be in the same country to be invited to join a WhatsApp group when it’s made.
im hurt as I thought we were friends- we do favours for each other and our kids went to each others party’s recently.
but I can’t shake the feeling this is on purpose. There are 20 others on there including one man who isn’t even technically on the same street.
I only found out because I suggested we form a street WhatsApp group. Am I being over sensitive? Would you say something to neighbour? I’m generally easy going, polite, keep out of everyone’s way so not like im a troublemarker

Tbh I think it was a bit shitty of her then and I'd wonder why she left you out. However I wouldn't say anything now as its done and dusted and you've been added now.

She probably forgot and then though she had added you. I don't think you should take it personally.

That doesn't sit right with me. Even if you have now been added. I would distance myself from that neighbor from now on.

I assume that she asked everone in person, not just added them on to the group if she had their number which is why she forgot that she hadn't added you.

If anyone tried to add me to a street WhatsApp I’d decline. From what I’ve heard they’re bloody awful things…..consider yourself lucky

That could be the case - hadn’t thought of that.

She was probably concerned that some people would think that she shouldn't be using their phones numbers to add them to a group that they had not agreed to join beforehand.

thanks - this might be it.

She explained why - you were away at the time
It’s really not worth the headspace you’re determined to give it.

yeah I understand now if we were away and she was asking people in person if they wanted to be part of it then fair enough.
it didn’t occur to me she would ask 20 people individually to be part of a WhatsApp group but I guess it’s possible