We have 3 kids together. 8,6 and 3. We are 28. We've been together for 10 years
I finally broke up with him last night over him endlessly giving me the silent treatment I just couldn't take it anymore. I don't have any feelings for him now and couldn't even bring myself to kiss him when he tried to end the silent treatment
He would give me the silent treatment for silly things or just no reason at all. At times it was every day/other day. Recently it's been once a week. This week it was because I asked him for a date. Last week it was because apparently I ignore him when I watch a tv show he tries to talk to me and I am so into it I don't hear him. His response to this is to ignore me for days on end.
He also gave me the silent treatment the other week for having a lack of sex. He claimed I wasn't affectionate to him and we never had sex I just exploded and said can you blame me?? You are horrid to me and ignore me for no reason at all then after a day of ignoring me you tap me then just try to kiss me it's horrible and he can't understand how that's not normal I can't believe he doesn't see that's wrong. Before I'd just put up with it and beg him to change but I just don't want to anymore. I'm at a point I'm busy so much I don't even have time for him. I've purposely created a life without him in it. I try every weekend he's in to be out which is rare. He is out nearly ever weekend because I "don't deserve a weekend off". If he's off work I go out. I avoid him at all costs. I know just want him out the house and it's my house.
Yet still I feel guilty even though he's constantly silent treating me. Purposely does things wrong like if I ask for him to do the kids school bags, somehow forgets their snack and can't wash dishes. Can't cook etc
If I say can you take them to school today it's a huff. He gets angry. Calls me a bitch in front of the kids. For asking him to take his own kids to school
He has a flip side where he's my best friends and every thing I want. He loves my favourite films, loves having a laugh and singing silly together and just being silly. He models himself into the perfect person for me then has a flip and is horrid. Ignores me, calls me names in front of the kids, thinks he shouldn't tidy, make dinners do anything around the house or helpful with the kids. He does nothing at all that helps with the kids then can't do things right when asked
He's made it to the point I don't want or need him yet because I'm asking him to leave I feel very guilty. Yet he enjoys giving me the silent treatment and treating me badly. I've been wanting him to cheat for ages because then I wouldn't feel guilty asking him to leave the house.