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How many times have you been married?

106 replies

Unknown1111 · 16/11/2024 08:40

Married or cohabiting.

I am separating from my second husband and now have 3 children from 2 men. No intention of going near another man right now but wondering do people in similar situations find their happy after?

OP posts:
stargazerlil · 16/11/2024 10:29

Never married, no kids. Feel good, feel happy. Have dog not lonely.
Look and feel at least 10 years younger than my age.
gone through menopause don’t miss sex.

Tumbleweed101 · 16/11/2024 10:30

One long term relationship and four children. Together about 14 years. Now split for 13 years and never had another long term relationship.

Crushed23 · 16/11/2024 10:33

Never married. Never engaged.

Co-habited once, for 1 year of a 2.5 year relationship.

Now single.

Very happy with my life.

Feellikeafailurenow · 16/11/2024 10:37

Once. Been with my husband over 20 years. If we split i’d remain single. Not keen on dealing with a blended family situation or parenting someone elses kids / trusting someone with mine so until they are older i’d happily be single.
in 20 years if i feel like it i would maybe want some company so never say never but in the near future if it happened i would 100% be single and focus on my kids. No more kids either as i’m now in my 40s

Lindjam · 16/11/2024 10:40

Twice divorced, two children, both from second marriage.

Been single for 14 years and have never been happier 😍

BrightLemonShark · 16/11/2024 10:40

Ooh I’ve thought of another example.
My grandad died in his 50s. My Grandma had a live in gentleman companion (as she called him) for about 15 years when I was growing up. He died as well.
Grandma found a third partner (her new gentleman companion) her 70s and was very happy until her death.

Katemax82 · 16/11/2024 10:44

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 16/11/2024 08:47

Once. Still happily married (21 years). If I ended up single for whatever reason, I would stay that way.

Same

Katemax82 · 16/11/2024 10:45

LumiK · 16/11/2024 09:42

Twice.

My first marriage ended when I was 26 and came home from work to find my husband dead in the bedroom.

The second one, we didn't really feel the need to get married for a long while so we were together over 10 years before we went ahead and did so quietly with no fuss.

How awful I'm so sorry x

Ribenaberry12 · 16/11/2024 10:46

Once. Been married over 20 years. Husband was married before though.

Sarah2891 · 16/11/2024 10:47

Never and never would.

Namechangedforspooky · 16/11/2024 10:48

DustyLee123 · 16/11/2024 08:41

One too many.

Ha ha and me!!

Jerseymilkshake · 16/11/2024 10:51

Only once, were together for 7 years, married for 1.5 years. Been single for over 8 years now and couldn't imagine living with anyone else again. I really enjoy being on my own (95% of the time).

researchers3 · 16/11/2024 10:52

One too many. Never again!

Clearinguptheclutter · 16/11/2024 10:55

Once. If we did split (I hope not!) I doubt I’d marry again.
a good friend has finally found happiness with number 4.

Mountainpika · 16/11/2024 10:58

Together 53 years, married 50. No intention to change anything.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 16/11/2024 10:59

Married once, still married, 30 years.

Not sure if I'd bother again if anything was to happen, but who knows.

Waitingfordoggo · 16/11/2024 11:00

Just the once and we only have children together. If we were to split up, I wouldn't want to marry or cohabit again. Wouldn't rule out dating but dating looks complicated and frustrating for older people so I wouldn't seek it.

needhelpwiththisplease · 16/11/2024 11:12

Never married but been with my partner for 30 years.
I've never wanted to get married.

FilthyforFirth · 16/11/2024 11:17

39, married 8 years, together 11 would never marry again or have more kids. I personally dont like blended families and would happily remain single. I have a large family, means to support myself and excellent friends.

Starting over again is not remotely appealing.

Lieslies · 16/11/2024 15:47

1 marriage and 2 serious cohabitations, all lasting 10 years until they decided to cheat on me. It feels like a curse or something.

Single for 2 years. No desire to do it again, although I'm sad the last one ended and I wish I'd had the sort of happy, permanent relationship I see others having. However, life is pretty darn good now on my own.

And quite honestly I'd feel too embarrassed to tell people I was giving it a fourth try. I obviously have shocking taste in men.

Crazycatlady79 · 16/11/2024 15:50

Married once. Got twin DC, 6.
Divorced the cunt 3 years ago.
Been single/celibate since I left him when the twins were 6 months old.

Not1Not2Butt3Holes · 16/11/2024 16:56

Never and at nearly 50 it won't ever happen. One daughter aged 19 and a dog.

Kneebonefuture · 16/11/2024 16:59

My mums been married 5 times and my step-dad 3. My dad never. I'm not too fussed either tbh. You don't have to get married to have a great relationship.

PassingStranger · 16/11/2024 17:16

No33 · 16/11/2024 09:59

Cohabited twice. Never married. 3 kids.

I am single, have been for many years and I'm still under 40. I CBA with men, they're all the same and bore me.

I fill my life with my wonderful family and friends, hobbies and studying.

Happier than I have ever been, cannot imagine every living with a man again. Could just do with a man to have sex with, but see previous comment 😆

Men are not all the same, just as women are not.

SmolTrashPanda · 16/11/2024 18:09

BrightLemonShark · 16/11/2024 10:40

Ooh I’ve thought of another example.
My grandad died in his 50s. My Grandma had a live in gentleman companion (as she called him) for about 15 years when I was growing up. He died as well.
Grandma found a third partner (her new gentleman companion) her 70s and was very happy until her death.

Did she share a bedroom with them?