Ex and his drug use

[Beakz]

Hi all,
I'm a long time lurker and previously posted many moons ago under a different name regarding my now ex. Many advised me to LTB at that post, and now I have, I'm enjoying finding myself and living without the stress he brought.
My AIBU is... am I dramatic for not wanting him to be stoned when looking after our young children?
He has a long standing issue with alcohol which I supported him getting off, but he essentially went from being drink dependent, to smoking weed from morning till night daily.
Following us separating, he has our children 1 night a week, but still smokes weed during the time he has them.
He knows I strongly disagree with it, and partly I wonder if he does it to try and get a reaction, but I dont know what else I can do to stop it? The children have come home smelling of it, and he has said before I'm dramatic for thinking its wrong and that he's 'a better parent' when stoned. I dont feel like it's safe for him to be driving about stoned either.
Its like dealing with the impossible..and I dont know what to do about it.

Opinions vary wildly on whether you can be a good parent and still enjoy a spliff when they are asleep/not present, but if he's smoking it around the children or driving under the influence, I'd say you have legitimate grounds to stop contact. Let him go to court and explain how he proposes to keep them safe while he's blitzed behind the wheel

If you seriously don't know that this isn't acceptable, find the phone number for your local social services hub and ask the duty social worker who answers the phone if you are adequately safeguarding your children when you continue to allow them to be in the care of and driven around by someone who is frequently under the influence of drugs.

Totally unacceptable and I would be stopping contact, just the same as I’d be stopping contact if he was drinking all day around the children.

I know some people on MN don't think it's a problem but I think the SS would take a dim view of a man who can't parent his own DC without being stoned. Worse than that, if it comes out you knew and let him take the DC the SS will blame you as well. Unless he has a court order for visitation you can refuse to let him take them Op

I have no problem with people enjoying a joint but I see it in the same way I see alcohol, you don’t drive while under the influence of it and you certainly don’t do it when you have small children in your care.

Thank you for the replies. Please don't assume I think its acceptable. I know its absolutely not, but after years of abuse from this man, the way he goes about things has me questioning my own sanity.
There's no court stuff involved, so I'm not sure I'm allowed to legally withhold the children from him?
We are only a month into this co-parenting and until recently he has denied smoking it whilst having the kids, even though I strongly suspected it but the last time he had them I asked him again as I could smell it and he admitted it.
Does anyone know what resources are available for this?
Would speaking to the HV be a start?

Stop contact and get in touch with Social Services

Driving under the influence with the kids in the car is an instant, never see the kids again until you can test clean situation.

Social services won’t stop a parent from seeing their child because they smoke weed, but driving under the influence with them in the car is different, as is if you can prove he has done anything else to jeopardise their safety when he’s had them in his care. If he’s smoking with them in the house then obviously that counts, or leaving a small child unsupervised to go and smoke etc. How old are the children?

This is what concerns me, as lots of info online seems to point towards the fact it won't be taken seriously. Just frustrating.
Theyre 5 and 3. I dont think he smokes in the house, but he will be going outside whilst they're left in the house, so not ok still.