I’m so fed up.
Been with DP 11 years. Every morning I wake up early with the kids (7 and <1). Get them breakfast, take DP coffee and breakfast in bed. He grunts. He’s not a morning person, I get that. I get a brief hug goodbye when he goes to work, as do the kids.
Texts messages vary during the day, sometimes telling me that something needs doing, sometimes jokey and fun. Very, very occasionally affectionate. Today was just grumpy, disagreement over plans for the weekend.
He comes home from work, grunts, feeds baby whilst I cook dinner. Puts kids to bed whilst I work. He’ll relax enough to talk about something about 9pm. Normally his day, or something online. Never asks about my day. No affection. Except complains we don’t have sex. He doesn’t want sex when we go to bed, no sex in the morning (kids to look after), occasionally manage it if grandparents have DC. Can’t say I’m that bothered. Getting grunted at, complained at, shouted at, all day until about 9pm doesn’t do it for me.
He’ll say it’s my fault. Because of my work we are living somewhere he doesn’t want to be. He wants to move. I don’t, we live in a great location for young children. But he doesn’t save any money, there is no realistic plan to move. And I don’t believe things will be any different if we did.
AIBU to want more? More affection, more interest in me, more support? I don’t feel supported in any way.