I’d love some perspective on a bit of a difference in view my partner and I are having about bedroom arrangements for our family. We’re in the process of adopting a baby/toddler, and the question of bedroom arrangements has come up. My 11-year-old DD currently has the third biggest room in our house, which is conveniently located directly opposite our bedroom. She’s not the best sleeper and likes to keep both her door and mine open at night. This setup has always helped her feel more secure.
My original thought was to put the baby in our currently empty, smallest bedroom, since they won’t need much space straight away (it’s still a decent size). However, my partner suggested moving DD to a bigger room at the end of the landing and giving the baby her current room instead. I’m concerned this might not only disrupt DD’s sense of stability but also lead to unexpected feelings of loss once she sees her old room repurposed for another child.
I know that DD will likely jump at the idea of a bigger room—she’d probably be thrilled about it initially! But I fear that only after the switch is made, and her old room becomes the baby’s, will she fully feel a particular way about not having that room anymore. Especially with her not being opposite our room anymore.
My partner feels it’s practical to make this shift now, and is thinking longer term, but I’m hesitant and wondering if my concerns are reasonable. I want to avoid creating any resentment or unnecessary upheaval of DD, especially with all the other change of bringing a baby into our family that is coming her way.
Am I being unreasonable here, or have others experienced something similar? I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences or any thoughts you might have on this.