My bay is SO LOUD

[BabyMama889]

AIBU to consider putting him in his room next door? Obv with a monitor and we can hear him cry anyway. Breaks my heart just thinking of it but I'm desperate. He'll be 12 weeks in a few days. He squeals and grunts and kicks around for ages. Then he goes quiet but then we have to wind ourselves back down to sleep. Then he starts again and wakes us up. He sleeps solid 7 hour stretches but we are getting very little of it!!! When do they grow out of this?

We have white noise and ear plugs but nothing could cover up these sounds. My DH is ex military and used to say he can sleep anywhere and through anything. Except a newborn. Turns out a baby is enough to break him too 😂

His daytime naps are getting shorter so I can't even catch up on sleep in the daytime really.

DS went into his own room at 4 weeks for a similar reason. Plus he seemed to hate his crib, so ended up in with us at some point. The first night in his own room in a cot he slept 8 hours! His room was next to ours so we left both doors open and could hear him even without the monitor. If you're worried about sids you could always have the monitor the other way round so he can hear you iyswim. Obviously that would only work if you'd still be able to hear him too.

@Fink that's my fear, that I'll just get up and check on him all the time which will defeat the whole point of moving him to another room. Even now, when I try to go take a nap and leave him with his dad, I sometimes hear him crying when he's not actually crying. It's a sound imprinted in my brain 😂

I used to panic and wake up if DS was quiet. My favourite sleepsuit was one with black and white stripes because if I could see them moving in the half-light I knew he was breathing so didn't have to get out of bed. Plus he looked like an escaped convict.

What earplugs have you got? I have loop quiet ones and they block out 90% of my husbands very very very loud snoring

I thought it was going to be about a noisy camper van

Which loops do you have I also have a snoring husband!

Take turns to sleep in the spare room. Better one person gets some sleep than both suffering.
It's not forever, just do the sensible thing for you both.

Exactly this. In my case the risk of having a mother who could not operate through exhaustion was higher than the risk of putting my babies just outside the main bedroom, on the landing. Could still hear them if they woke or needed assistance but the constant sleeping grunts etc couldn't keep me awake so much from the landing

Me too!

I opened the thread as I thought I could probably give advice as I have a door kicking chestnut mare !

No I wouldn’t, I mean chances are it would be absolutely fine and is for most, but the evidence is quite overwhelming that risk of SIDS is a lot higher when baby sleeps in own room. Mine are all grown up now (youngest 16) but SIDS was something I was so paranoid about, especially because my eldest was born around the whole back to sleep campaign. I just personally would never increase the risk but many would think nothing of it. It’s your choice

Personally no I wouldn’t , not worth the risk. All 3 of mine were noisy sleepers, it’s just part of having babies. I know if they were in a different room I woukd be up all night checking on them.

ODFOD

Where did you find that the evidence that SIDs is a lot higher when a baby is in their own room? Granted, I looked into this a while back now so newer evidence may have emerged. But I don't remember this being the case?

Mine went into their own rooms at 8 weeks and 6 weeks.

I’ve done my research and was happy with my risk assessment. No smoking and baby on back are much bigger protective factors and reduce the risk of SIDS by a huge amount alone.

Actually it's 50/50, and additionally more babies die co-sleeping, but MN will never advise against co-sleeping.

Opened to see what "bay" was.
I'd decided it was a horse.

I was about to post ‘you can’t keep a horse in your house’ 🤣