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Neighbour climbs over the fence next to my house to get home.

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AveryC · 13/11/2024 21:45

Hi everyone,
I just moved in to a new development, everything is good except for one thing.
My house is located at the end of a cul-de-sac. The front door faces a path for we walk to our driveway and a low fence, which marks the boundary at the end of or property. Outside the low fence have a a lawn and have a narrow walkway.
The walkway can get to to places like the supermarket and school.
However, during school dismissal, people often cut across the grass and climb over the fence, stepping into our property on their way home and some neighbors often walk through my property and climb over the fence near my house to access the footpath.

In doing so, they end up stepping on parts of my property, including areas just outside my parking space or some child jump into my front door area.

I feel incredibly annoyed and uncomfortable about their behavior. If they get too close to my house, I usually warn them. But there are times when they do this on the outskirts of my property, which makes it harder for me to say anything.l, but it supposed to be a close.

It’s only winter now; I can’t imagine what it will be like in the summer.
What should I do? And AIBU?

Thank you for reading my thoughts.
Here is my primary school-level drawing for your reference.😂

Neighbour climbs over the fence next to my house to get home.
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5foot5 · 13/11/2024 23:19

OttersAreMySpiritAnimal · 13/11/2024 21:51

If you can't make the fence higher plant some pyracantha, if you have room. That'll be a nice deterrent. And it's also pretty.

Yes this .
A few years ago my FIL had his shed broken in to, the intruder got in to the garden over the fence.
The policeman who attended advised him to plant pyracanthas along the fence, he said it was the best deterrent

AveryC · 13/11/2024 23:21

JC03745 · 13/11/2024 23:15

Are you in the UK OP? I'm wondering due to your spelling. 'Neighbor' is the US spelling, so you might be different bylaws/rules there if that is the case.

I’m in the UK, sorry m not local so the English is not really good🙏🏻

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Nat6999 · 13/11/2024 23:31

Are they doing it in the dark? If so, put a plastic crate full of water at the bottom of the fence on your side, wet feet might make them rethink climbing again, or some large rocks, a sprained or broken ankle would definitely stop them, make it look like a rockery then it isn't deliberate.

JC03745 · 13/11/2024 23:32

AveryC · 13/11/2024 23:21

I’m in the UK, sorry m not local so the English is not really good🙏🏻

Your English is great OP, I was just unsure, because the advice might be different if you weren't in the UK x

2Sensitive · 13/11/2024 23:37

I think it may look to others that no one actually own this.
Get your deeds and fence of your land

Dreamskies · 13/11/2024 23:41

Wait, so you’ve failed to draw in the fact that the space between your parking space and the neighbours parking space is, in fact, a road? So people are just walking down the road to the end of the cul de sac and hopping the fence onto a lawn you don’t even own?

yeah, you’re being too sensitive.

healthybychristmas · 13/11/2024 23:43

Get the developer to sort something out.

5475878237NC · 13/11/2024 23:55

Really could do with a zoomed out diagram. Can't quite get it. Also don't understand who owns what.

Caerulea · 14/11/2024 00:25

Firstly - nothing wrong your English at all!

Secondly, this looks like bad design. Keep seeing estates built like this with only one way in & out by both car & foot. DS was at a place where the shop was on the other side of his fence at the end of the cul-de-sac but he had a nearly two mile walk to get there 🙄.

What needs to happen, if I'm reading it right, is a gate where you've written the word fence so ppl can come in & out onto the tarmac of the road.

Edingril · 14/11/2024 00:39

Watch home alone there is some great ideas on there

SomeSuperhero · 14/11/2024 02:01

Assuming that in between the parking spaces is your and your neighbours shared private drive off the hammerhead at the end of the cul de sac?

If so, you need to deploy the Dog Shit Technique. Acquire some dog shit (no doubt freely available on the footpath) and place in a haphazard fashion next to the fence like little land mines. The neighbours will soon get fed up playing dog shit on shoes roulette and will avoid the cut through. 😁

Guest100 · 14/11/2024 02:19

If it’s a repeat offender maybe you could just ask them not to cut through. When I was a child my brother was given permission to cut down the side of our back neighbours yard to get to school. In the next street. I did it once and the old lady that lived there really told me off. I apologised and never went near the boundary again. Years later she made me feel bad about not going near her yard as she fell and was on the ground outside for three days.

BettyBardMacDonald · 14/11/2024 02:21

Guest100 · 14/11/2024 02:19

If it’s a repeat offender maybe you could just ask them not to cut through. When I was a child my brother was given permission to cut down the side of our back neighbours yard to get to school. In the next street. I did it once and the old lady that lived there really told me off. I apologised and never went near the boundary again. Years later she made me feel bad about not going near her yard as she fell and was on the ground outside for three days.

Karma.

Fraaahnces · 14/11/2024 02:27

Cat spikes?

RawBloomers · 14/11/2024 02:51

3 minutes isn’t a small amount of time for most people when walking to or from school or, especially, a parked car. I’m not suggesting this means it’s okay for them to hop on to your property, just pointing out that it’s an incentive that isn’t going to just disappear. They’re going to keep doing it unless there is something easier. So you need to give them an easier way through, or make it more difficult than 3 minutes is worth.

Where are the parents who are climbing the fence going? Is it to the area between the two sets of the parking spaces, and if so, is that a public right of way or somewhere they are entitled to be? Just wondering if lobbying for an opening between the path and that bit of land would stop the fence hopping on your property. If people are hopping the fence, even if you stop them doing it along your bit of property, they’re likely to do it further on, and that will likely damage the fence eventually, pushing it over and affecting your property and the look of the area.

StandingSideBySide · 14/11/2024 03:35

Dreamskies · 13/11/2024 23:41

Wait, so you’ve failed to draw in the fact that the space between your parking space and the neighbours parking space is, in fact, a road? So people are just walking down the road to the end of the cul de sac and hopping the fence onto a lawn you don’t even own?

yeah, you’re being too sensitive.

No that space between the cars is owned jointly by OP and her neighbour opposite for them to access only.
People are walking across their property ( the space between the cars ) and jumping the fence to access the lawn route behind

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 14/11/2024 08:07

@AveryC It really isnt clear because apparent OP's house is at the bottom of the cul de sac! where are the people coming from or going to???

Tink3rbell30 · 14/11/2024 08:10

Unless you stand there all day guarding it I don't think people will stop.

ThePinkFrenchFancyPlease · 14/11/2024 08:22

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 14/11/2024 08:07

@AveryC It really isnt clear because apparent OP's house is at the bottom of the cul de sac! where are the people coming from or going to???

OP says clearly that people are using the walkway which gives access to the school and supermarket. Culs-de-sac just mean no through roads for cars - estates usually have numerous cut-through walkways to give easier access for pedestrians away from traffic.

People using the walkway are being incredibly rude and entirely wrong in fence hopping onto private property to cut their journey down further. Even if the land they’re using is not solely owned by the OP, it’s still not public access - only she and her neighbour have the right to use it. There seem to be a lot of wilfully confused people on this thread, because the explanation and diagram are quite clear. Perhaps we’ve found all the cheeky fuckers who think this sort of thing is okay?

Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 14/11/2024 08:23

I'm slightly confused? Do you own the whole fence that runs along the pathway?
If that fence is part of your property then yes that is cheeky.
But honestly when I read the title it sounded like someone was literally CLIMBING up a 6 foot fence not stepping over one.

Oreyt · 14/11/2024 08:26

Is the walk way to the right or left of the lawn?

Blondeshavemorefun · 14/11/2024 08:27

I just can't imagine actually jumping over a fence to do a short cut

Who started it

Still confused By your pic but 🌟 for providing a diagram

Mn loves a diagram 😂

MarketValveForks · 14/11/2024 08:32

You don't need 6ft fences. A 3ft fence with a 1ft trellis on top taking it to 4ft (about chest height for most adults) with plants growing around the trelis supports will look lovely and no one will be jumping over it.

ParanormalNorman · 14/11/2024 08:37

Roses. Lots of lovely climbing roses (the thornier the better) along the lower fence line. They look beautiful, smell lovely and are very painful to climb on.

ThePinkFrenchFancyPlease · 14/11/2024 08:40

Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 14/11/2024 08:23

I'm slightly confused? Do you own the whole fence that runs along the pathway?
If that fence is part of your property then yes that is cheeky.
But honestly when I read the title it sounded like someone was literally CLIMBING up a 6 foot fence not stepping over one.

Edited

It doesn’t matter who owns the fence - it’s the private land people are getting on to by climbing over it which is the problem.

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