To ask you if some things are better left unsaid?

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Inspired by the thread about what do you wish you could say out loud to certain people.

Do you believe you can be too honest with people? Is it about a balance? You shouldn’t say everything you’re thinking but you shouldn’t be two faced either? And if someone asks you for an honest opinion, do you give it?

If someone asks me my opinion about politics or religion I will be honest.

If someone asks me for an opinion on clothes eg "do you like my dress" and I don't, I'll say something honest but not answering like "it's so shiny!" Or "It's so fluffy/bright/soft". If they just wanted an empty noise they will move on. If they really want to know, they'll ask again and I might say something like "it's not really my taste" or "what are the other options?"

If someone asks me an opinion on a person, it depends on the person. Sometimes I will say "what a twat!" or say whether I like/dislike them and other times I will be diplomatic and say something like "I don't know them well" or "I haven't seen that side of them yet".

I don't like talking badly about people behind their backs, but that doesn't mean i never do, but equally, just because you think something doesn't make it true and doesn't mean it is worth saying.

I think there are lots of different ways you can be honest without being harsh, brutal, or unkind about it. But that to other people that might sound like blurring the lines between honesty and dishonesty. Also, what feels like the truth in one moment, might not feel true later.

Like, for example, sometimes I feel that my OH has done something monumentally stupid. Or has let me down. But after a time spent reflecting I will understand their actions and forgive their mistakes.

What is the truth there?