guilty over ventouse delivery

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I gave birth 8 days ago my baby was 12 days over due, i got induced on sunday morning 11am had her after 4am monday morning,
ended up having to have the vacuum and I feel incredibly guilty that why did Me and my body fail her and seeing the lump on my daughters head everyday is awful

Congratulations on surviving and giving birth to your beautiful daughter. You should feel so proud of yourself and your body for creating a whole new life, you have done something amazing.

Congratulations lovey. I promise it gets easier. I felt the same after having a CSection but now I want an elective now the post birth hormones are readiness have worn off. Most births don't go to plan. The main thing is you and her are here and healthy and well. If you don't feel better about things soon, do tell your midwife/health visitor and so someone you love. Talk here too. Enjoy your beautiful newborn.

Aww man, it's rough and the bump it leaves isn't nice. My first baby was delivered by ventouse as well. You did the very best that you could, and your baby will be just fine, it will heal. Be kind to yourself, it is not your fault. Congratulations on your beautiful new baby.

You did good.
Same as I did.
Remember that she won't remember this and that it was beyond your control.
Counselling may help.

REMEMBER YOU DID GOOD!

Congratulations! Please don’t feel guilty. Babies sometimes just position themselves awkwardly and need a bit of help. I had this with one of my kids and I just think how fortunate we are to have such amazing interventions now. The lump will be gone before you know it.

Before I had DD, a lovely birth coach type did an exercise with us. Write down 20 cards for all your wishes for the birth and afterwards. So everything from water birth to home birth to no interventions and obviously everyone wrote 'healthy baby' on a card. She went through the exercise and said, 'you're not progressing, throw away one card' and so on. Until we all just had one card left. Guess which card we all had?

If your little one has a battle scar lump, it's because being born is hard. So is giving birth. Give yourself credit and be glad you have the wonders of modern medicine like the ventouse.

I had a ventouse delivery, I assume the team felt it was the safest way to get the baby out your body didn't let you embrace the fact babies can be delivered in the safest way possible, and I assure you the brusing doesn't last long .

Hey you and your body did a grand job you brought a real live human being into this world 🌎 You grew her for 9mths from nothing. Eyes, ears, toes and everything 😍
Half the population could never achieve what You and your body did it.

Two of the most dangerous things you can do is be born and give birth. So what if you needed a bit of help it's 10x better than the alternative.

Stop beating yourself up. You got her into this world and all will be good.

Congratulations on your daughter! You did exactly everything you needed to do. You let medical professionals make the safest intervention, and you and your lovely girl are safe and sound.

My kids love hearing the stories of their births and my eldest particularly loves that he was “sucked out with a baby hoover” (his words!) His younger brother is incredibly jealous he didn’t get the same birth.

Aw you did amazing. She was delivered safe and well. You didnt fail her. I had ventouse too and I was just relieved she was out, her head was facing sideways which caused all sorts of issues. You gave birth to a baby. The intervention was required and the head will heal. Don't be so hard on yourself, your energies just need to go into the baby not these thoughts. Enjoy.

YABU to feel guilty but you’ll come to realise there’s nothing to feel guilty about. They use it when getting the baby out has become urgent and it would be dangerous to do nothing.

Oh lovely, you and your daughter are here, safe and well.

That's all that matters. How is irrelevant.

Congratulations. Just gaze into that little miracle of a face. You’ve so much joy annd fun ahead of you!

A baby with a bump on it's head is better than a baby with life long birth injuries. I was a forceps birth - my mum said meeting the anaesthetist was the best bit of the whole thing. I didn't give it a second thought as a child when she mentioned it in passing. I had two c-sections because that was the safe option for me. I don't ponder why my cervix was thick and unyielding as the specialist put it. In fact, I am thankful it was because I had a prolapsed cord and if I had gone into labour naturally it could have been catastrophic. The key outcome is a healthy baby, whatever it takes.

There's usually a very good reason to intervene in the exit plan - DS2 had to be forcibly coaxed out with the vontouse cos he was so tangled up I couldn't do it by myself & he was suffocating. End result? Mum & baby both alive, just as the case is for you & that is THE best possible outcome.

Babies heads are often odd shapes cos they are squishy and generally it sorts itself out.

Make sure to take it easy on yourself & remember what you've just been thru is actually absolutely enormous - just fucking massive. We make an entire human in less than 9 months, that's the opposite of failing her! YOU LITERALLY CREATED HER FROM YOUR OWN BODY. It's never not impressive 👏

Genuine question....if one of your friends just gave birth and told you they needed ventouse would you think "oh God what a failure she is"?.

Cos I would think "Wow she's been through the mill, thank God they're both safe and what a hero"