Not too happy about my partner telling other women at work that they are pretty

[PurpleCat44]

My partner is in his early 30s, and good looking. He works alongside mainly women.

Tonight my partner came home after work, and told me one of his colleagues at work is pretty. I asked more about her and he said she’s in her 60s but looks great, and he told her that she’s pretty/ gorgeous. Baring in mind their age difference, I don’t know if I’m just being silly. He’s also told me that he’s said the same thing to a few other women (again mostly older women) in the office to be friendly with them.

He also told me some of these women were being flirty with him , like asking how tall he is( he’s tall), and telling him he has a baby face.

Is it just harmless office banter or am I reasonable to not be too happy?

Forgot to add that we were both old enough to be his mother.

It shows an embarrassing lack of knowledge about women if he thinks this is how they want men to relate to them in the workplace.

Exactly. Really unprofessional and grim

It's not appropriate at work, maybe HR will tell him that one day

Creepy and sleazy. I hope HR pull him up pdq.

I'd be creeped out by someone like this at work. But I'd probably roll my eyes and tell him to drag his patronising backside out of the 50s. He is lacking in social and workplace skills. I'm sure there are videos out there you could send links to. But future wise, I'd give up on this one and throw him back. It's not like he's trying to work on himself, so why should you do the legwork?

@PurpleCat44 he's being unprofessional and sleazy and if he's not careful, it will bite him on the arse.

Tell him to knock it off. He's at work to do his job not make inappropriate comments on how others look.

Tell him to keep who he thinks is pretty inside his own head and not let it out of his mouth.

I'd also remind him that you are not stupid. He's telling you about these pretty colleagues because he wants you off yer footing for some reason. He's trying to dim your confidence shine and that is not okay.

He's a twat.

He says they look quite pleased to be told they’re gorgeous/ pretty. He just told me he only says it in response when they tell him he looks handsome etc

Is your husband socially inept in general? Does he come across as a person who is less mature than others in a social setting?

It strikes me that the women at his work may have observed that he's a bit of a gormless twit, hence the baby face comments.

I wouldn’t care at all. I find it cute when my partner has friendly interactions with people. He always reports any flirting he’s been doing, it tickles me. It’s just for fun!

People on here would be appalled to hear the things my colleagues and I say to each other.

Sounds like their office banter to me. Although a lot depends on tone and context. He works with mostly women so has probably become one of the girls.