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to think my Mum should avoid getting drunk at the moment?

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deaconblue · 27/04/2008 14:13

My Mum has agreed to come and look after ds when I go into labour. I am due in two weeks time. On Thursday she is going to a lunch with friends which occurs monthly and always ends up with her being so drunk she can hardly talk and a monstrous hangover the next day. She isn't a drunk btw, it's just this one group of friends once a month. I asked today if she planned to drink on Thursday and said if so I would ask my sister to be in charge should I go into labour Thursday. She was shirty and couldn't see why she shouldn't look after ds if she'd been out with her friends. I said she may need to drive him somewhere.
I expected her to say she'd meet her friends and only have a couple of glasses of wine but was surprised when she agreed my sister should stand in instead.
Sorry very long post BUT am I being unreasonable in thinking she should ditch the booze for just this lunch date??

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deaconblue · 28/04/2008 12:01

of course, he has to be able to drive without being over the limit. I am pregzilla though, I admit it.

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FluffyMummy123 · 28/04/2008 12:02

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MamaG · 28/04/2008 12:03

lol at pregzilla

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deaconblue · 28/04/2008 12:04

aha so they can all get off their tits and I'll just get a cab on my own while they sleep it off. Tell you what, I am having a fucking huge glass of cold white wine when this elephant baby is finally out...

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MrsTittleMouse · 28/04/2008 12:05

spicemonster - I don't get hangovers, so I don't have any direct experience, but I certainly wouldn't want DH looking after DD when he has one of his. Man, he really suffers. Perhaps you get gentle lady-like hangovers though, that are compatible with babysitting.
I did say that it was shoppingbag's Mum's decision whether she got drunk. I just think that it's really that the Mum gets shirty that shoppingbag has arranged another person to cover. Surely no-one thinks that it's great to leave your child with someone drunk while you rush to the hospital to give birth???

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deaconblue · 28/04/2008 12:07

no, evil indigestion if I even consider a sip of wine and can hardly be in a nark with mum if I'm having a lovely chilled tipple can I?
right, must do jobs and collect ds from nursery

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spicemonster · 28/04/2008 12:11

MTM - My hangovers are not that delicate but I can look after a small child (not with any enjoyment admittedly ). I have been drunk on a bus too Not since I've had a child though. As far as I can remember

Sorry LL - will try to write with more precision in future

littlelapin · 28/04/2008 12:15

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VictorianSqualor · 28/04/2008 12:16

I want to say YABU, because you have another option, but my MiL usually has a good bottle or two of red at the wkends and stopped drinking (and had a bag packed) from about 38weeks incase I went into labour and she had to have the elder DC's.
DP didn't stop drinking though, in fact I actively encouraged it thinking t would be just my luck he'd be pissed when I went into labour so I tried to tempt fate
Didn't work btw, just meant I had to put up with beer breath and leering.

spicemonster · 28/04/2008 12:18

VS - your DP leered at you when you were 38 weeks?

BabiesEverywhere · 28/04/2008 12:19

LOL, Is this thread still going

It is very unlikely that you will go into labour two weeks before your due date. Your mum's monthly boozy lunch out is a none, if you do labour early your sister is on call. What are you worried about ?

BabiesEverywhere · 28/04/2008 12:20

Your mum's monthly boozy lunch out is a none issue.

VictorianSqualor · 28/04/2008 12:21

Like I said spicemonster, he was drinking
I think he thoguht he was seeing double...but wasn't.

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Cammelia · 28/04/2008 12:41

shoppingbags, I think this means you are very near going into labour as you are worrying about stuff (that isn't a major prob)

moondog · 28/04/2008 12:43

How mad that your mum gets shitfaced!
Where do they go and what do they drink?

FluffyMummy123 · 28/04/2008 12:44

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onepieceoflollipop · 28/04/2008 12:47

Perhaps if shoppingbags told her mum that her friend Cod knows that she was drunk on a bus (!) her mum will be shamed into moderating this monthly episode of non-genteel behaviour.

madamez · 28/04/2008 12:49

Why shouldn't this woman have a few drinks once a month? It's not like she's trashed every night or pouring vodka on her cornflakes. Also OP the world doesn;t stop just because you are having a baby: you've got back up in place, leave your poor mum alone.

FluffyMummy123 · 28/04/2008 12:53

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VinegarTits · 28/04/2008 12:54

Did you tell her that you were going to ask your sister to babysit before she answered your question on if she will be drinking? If you did i would be a bit shirty too, tbh. It sounds like you just assumed she would still get ratarsed and therefore had a backup plan, when maybe you should have just given her the benefit of the doubt.