Do I need a kick up the backside?

[Undercovercourgette]

Fellow mums (and dads!) Wonder if I’m alone. Married mum of 2 DC (9,1), work self employed as does DH.

I wake up miserable, always skint, no energy, no desire to do anything, depressed about cost of living, everyone wants money ALL OF THE TIME, worry constantly, credit card debt (unnecessary but manageable), live in a shabby private rent in an awful area - tried to save to buy.. impossible. On council list, as low on list as I could possibly be.. dreading Christmas and the cost it brings.. have been on anti depressants before and now have appt to discuss going back on as literally this black cloud will not disperse. Did so well coming off them and now I feel like I am weak.

AIBU to think this is just life, no matter how hard I try to make things better, nothing improves. My wee kids are healthy and happy, i know so many others going through bad times, way worse than me, Hense the AIBU.. I feel so guilty about feeling so shit.. I’d take comfort in anyone feeling the same. Which sounds awful but I need someone I can relate to!

Sounds like most of your issues are money, would you agree? Unless you can fix the issue it will just keep coming back to bite you. Can you both look at your jobs to see if you have more earning potential elsewhere?

I hear you. Money is a huge, never ending issue and relatively speaking, whiel we have huge cash flow issues currently, DH and I are not too badly off at all in the bigger scheme of things. It feels like you can never get out from underneath it.

DH and I have foudn that really sitting down and taking the tough decisions, making strategic plans helps. it feels less vaguelly apocolyptic that way? So looking at the outgoings, what can be slashed. Looking at earnings... what can be improved. Looking at debt - should we consolidate. etc

My husband can, and I will eventually, I am a hairdresser and self employed so I will eventually do things to increase income, extensions etc, but at the moment I have a small child and childcare is limited so I’m working my way up to more days. Also these courses cost so much money which I don’t have yet.. it’s a vicious circle. I think some days things seem worse than they are, and perhaps when I posted this I was having a particularly bad day. I just hoped someone may be able to relate x