When do you stop swiping on dating apps if you're seeing someone

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Met someone a couple months ago on a dating app. Get on well. Been seeing each other 1 or 2 times a week. He says he wants to be with someone and not into dating multiple people etc. We've slept together. However he is still swiping on the dating app.

When do people stop swiping? What is the "norm"?

Personally I stopped pretty much straight away. I find/found I can’t think about more than one person at once, so if I’ve started dating someone I wouldn’t be inclined to keep swiping looking at others.

But I know friends (male and female) who stay using the apps and sometimes date more than one person at once initially.

I'd have expected him to stop swiping by now, if that's what you're really asking. But if you haven't had the 'we're exclusive and off the apps' conversation he's not really doing anything wrong. But if you're uncomfortable and ready to be exclusive, you need to initiate the chat. But be prepared for him to all of a sudden be open to dating multiple people...

I dont think theres a time limit on it. They stop when they want to. If they're still keeping his options open, he's gonna still be swiping. He'll stop when he doesn't feel a desire to look for other people.

Once you're seeing each other, it seems pretty rude.

I'm a one-at-a-time person. If the other person was dating me and still swiping, that wouldn't be for me.

I think by the time it got to our third date, it was clear this might be going somewhere so I stopped.

Oh how I hate modern dating. Ok, so technically he's not actually doing anything wrong... but if he's into you then why would it even be on his radar to keep swiping? I think if it was me I'd presume he was not that into me and move on. I operate a one at a time policy once sex is involved, and I seriously couldn't be arsed to wait around to see if he gets a better offer or not.

BTW, how do you know he's still swiping? X

Good luck xx

After the first date was successful and you both wanted a second date.

If I've really liked them (DP) then straight away. In fact I cancelled other dates after I met him as I wasn't interested in seeing anyone else and didn't go out of politeness/ hedging bets as we don't live in a massive town, and I thought that if he saw me on another date it may take the shine off the best connection I could remember feeling. Turns out he didn't have anything else planned but he deleted his apps too without discussion.

For less obvious connections but that had potential, I would establish exclusivity before sex. Possibly a few dates. Then pause my apps as there's no point not giving it a proper go and looking elsewhere. If I didn't feel inclined to focus on that one person then I would see it as casual and continue to see others, and expect them to do the same if wished.

Depends on what you both agree to. Have the conversation.

A couple of months would be about the point where I would want to stop swiping......unless I wasn't that into the guy. You need to talk about it.

Erm... surely when I start dating, no?

By all means swipe again if a date doesn't work out.

People need better manners.

Have you ever used apps..? This just isn't realistic, and actually would probably end up with you overinvested in one man who very much isn't going to be your soulmate. Going on a few dates doesn't mean you need to be exclusive.

He says he wants to be with someone and not into dating multiple people etc

• *sounds like that’s not true if he’s messaging people on dating apps

If he's still swiping, he’s keeping his options open, his words and actions don’t match. If you're a single parent, dating apps can be frustrating with this kind of behavior. You might have better luck with conventional dating sites like SingleParentMatch.com or ParentFlirt.com, where people are genuinely looking for commitment and understand your priorities...

Why wouldn't you wait until you were exclusive before sleeping with him? Men tend to only take women who demand respect seriously.