To think my partner should stay home today

[Olive96]

Hi,

I think I’m in the early stages of labour - been having contractions inconsistently since yesterday and they are now 15-20 mins apart, they aren’t super intense - managing with breathing.

This is different to my first birth which started with waters breaking and was fast and furious. So I have no idea how long a ride I’m in for!

So the AIBU - my partner is due to be working on site around 90 mins from home, obviously I don’t know how long this early stage of labour will last and it could be a pointless day off but would you be saying to stay home?

My uncle drove screeching into the hospital —
My wife’s having a baby!!! My wife’s having a baby right now!!!
“Sir, relax. Your wife isn’t having a baby.”
They’d met a train - a looong one - on their way to the hospital, and my aunt had my cousin right there in the car in front of the hospital.

I mean, don’t listen to me, but maybe your husband should stay home.

My colleague had her we've last week. 1 hour 20 minutes from first contraction, to her husband catching the baby at the maternity ward reception!

Second.

I agree with you. Totally different situation but it reminded me of what happened with me. DH is forces and didn't have a car when I had my second. He was 6 hours away and the last train was 9pm. I was so worried. They let him home on the Sunday and I went into labour on the Monday. So lucky. Hope it works out.

Why is this even a question? You don't get a choice why should he!

You may well have a baby by breakfast...definitely keep him home! Good luck!

Good luck OP, I hope he decided to stay 💐

Yes, deffo stay home.

My first baby from waters breaking, then starting contractions to giving birth was 24 hours.

Second baby: waters broke 2am. Started contractions. Baby was out before 8am.

It felt so rushed. By the time other half had dropped first child off with family 10 mins away and got back, it was straight to hospital as things were moving quickly. Second stage of labour was something like 15 minutes!

Good luck! I also think best decision is him to stay home with you xx

My son (2nd baby) was born 20 minutes after my waters went after my contractions suddenly sped up. His father missed his birth by minutes. I definitely think 90 minutes away is too far for your husband to be at this time.

We knew I was in the early stages of labour and DH went to work as normal. My mum came over to look after DD and about 2.00 I called him to say he HAD to come home. We still laugh about how I got to the hospital at 3.00 and our son was born at 5.00.

I think he works on a site somewhere 😁

here for the baby updates!

good luck OP! xx

Good luck!!!

Good luck!!

With My 2nd labour my waters didn't break up till right before my daughter came out but with my 3rd it started with my waters "breaking" (more like slowly trickling over a few hours) so they're all different

My first took forever, my second was 2 and 1/2 hours from first contraction to meeting baby. I only pushed for 17 minutes. I’d had inconsistent and varying in intensity contractions for most of the day though. Ask him to stay home

Basically a lot can change in 90 minutes!

Hmmm thought one. Difficult as he is 90 minutes away but 15-20 minutes apart could still be very early or even a false start labour. With my second I had contractions on and off for a week and a half before finally having the baby. I think that can be more common with the second and subsequent children. Presumably he’s trying to work as much as possible so he’s able to take more time off when the baby is actually born.

Can’t believe the OP hasn’t been back, it’s been 3 and a half hours, she could have updated if he stayed or not!

How are you doing OP?

Her contractions were 10 minutes apart shortly before he needed to leave. My guess is she’s gone to hospital and there didn’t even need to be a discussion. I think she’s not been back because she might be a bit busy.

Assume this is your attempt at humour? 😁

Assuming this comment is a joke?!