Toilet accidents in preschool

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Hello! I am A bit concerned about my little one . She is 4 and has started pre school/reception class. But lately she has been having accidents. Today she came with wet trousers and socks . So she clearly has wet herself . I asked her when did that happen and did u not tell teacher to help you change . Apparently that happened while she was out in the garden around 1 . Anyways I am not sure why she is having few accidents in matter of a short period of time. How can I confront the teacher without sounding like I am blaming . I am concerned tho on why ,as home she never has any and she knows how to go toilet .
I am confused 😕

Before this I did notice that she wait till we leave the door and asks for toilet straight away . Like she has been holding on to for ages . We did mention to the teacher but seems like now it has gone worse to peeing herself

Similar with my DS, I spoke with him about it and he said he was too shy to ask so I mentioned this to the teacher (just said DS is sometimes feeling too shy to ask) and she assured him it was ok to go to the toilet any time or ask if they are elsewhere in school. Obviously the teachers prefer them to go to the loo than wee on the floor and need changing!

Every school will have different ways of toileting. Generally in my teaching experience, children even in reception are able to make the choice of when they need the toilet. Children are always always allowed to go....but it's their decision.....unlike say nursery, in my experience, when they're physically taken at set times. Of course I'm sure the teacher is taking the whole class to the toilet before assembly, PE etc.....and every early years classroom I've ever worked in, we try hard to encourage children "to go" as much as possible as we know it's not as structured as possibly where they've come from.

It could be your DD isn't "going" at the designated times and later in free flow/ playtime etc, when noone is taking her or reminding her, she's just holding on until the last minute and not making it.

Definitely speak to her teacher. I'm sure she won't be offended...she works in reception, it's common. She'll be used to it. Ask how you can work together to try and overcome this small hurdle in her brilliant start to reception.

You don’t confront the teacher, you talk to them. The teacher is not at fault because your child wet herself.

This is really common in reception when children don’t want to stop what they’re doing or they don’t want to stop using the thing they’re playing with because someone else will have it by the time they get back.

You need to be talking to your dd about the importance of going as soon as she feels she needs it, and encourage her to tell the teacher if she needs help.