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No house, no job, single mum. Help.

28 replies

Forgotthat · 11/11/2024 14:24

I need help and advice but really have no idea where to turn.

I’m going to try and bullet point to make it as simple as possible.

Going through a divorce
There has been physical abuse
(courts don’t care)
Offer has been put on marital home
STBEXH made himself bankrupt during divorce
I’m looking for a full time job
5 year old girl at school
Ex doesn’t help with DD
(So no after school care or pick ups or drop offs to school)
I have no money as ex took it all before he left (courts don’t care)
With the house sale I’ll have around 20k
Rent for 2 bed flat/house is £1.2k-1.4K a month where I live
I’d need to earn around £35k a year (haven’t been in work as I was a SAHM) to live and pay all bills
Finding a 35k job feels impossible.
One that’s remote (I need that or hybrid or extremely flexible hours) as even with after school clubs and care, the latest I can collect my DD is 5:30pm, so I’d need to leave work by 5pm - where finishes at 5 nowadays??

I feel like I haven’t got a hope.

Once the house is sold, we have no where to go, I’ll have to use the 20k for rent until I get a job, then what?

I’m terrified and I don’t know how I can better my situation. I know there’s lot of people worse off but I can’t see how I can get a place and a job that fits all the above criteria.

I feel so unbelievably down and can’t fathom how I’m going to do this all. The entitled to website doesn’t really help me because I have no idea what my circumstances will be.

OP posts:
Slanketweather78 · 11/11/2024 15:39

No advice but just wanted to wish you well 💐

It feels impossible because your abusive ex is still very much influencing your circumstances.

Once free of him and on your own path, you will feel a lot stronger 💪. Good luck.

BumbleUnicorn · 11/11/2024 15:40

Try www.fivehourclub.com for roles around school hours.

OrangeAutumSunshineGlow · 11/11/2024 15:51

I believe that you can only apply for universal credit if you have less than 16k savings.
But you will probably have this once you have divorced, moved,

https://www.gov.uk/universal-credit

Would also apply for child maintenance (not taken into account for universal credit)

I believe that you also received more UC if you work

Good luck

https://www.gov.uk/universal-credit

Universal Credit

Universal Credit is replacing 6 other benefits with a single monthly payment if you're out of work or on a low income - eligibility, how to prepare.

https://www.gov.uk/universal-credit

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