To assume he had notifications on

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Okay it's a strange one and I am beginning to Q my paranoia/sanity.
I am married btw and not in the market for a sneaky link of any kind just to clarify that.

There is a guy I know, friend of a friend kind of thing. Added him on social media around a year ago when met him to a social event of mutual friend - like you do.

Never messages me. No reason to and vice versa. But I have noticed this past 4 month a pattern and I am not sure if I am a bit delulu or paranoid.

Stories I post..first viewer. Always. Within around 3 mins or so. Every story without fail. Usually quotes or the odd selfie.
Nothing usual there you could think. Maybe he is just one of those who likes to get rid of the blue circle.... here is the weird thing. He has over 2k friends on facebook, I conducted an experiment. I out of bordem and curiosity took it upon my self to watch his active status. And 80% of the time he comes 'Active now' within around 10 min of me posting, like he can be 'Last active 7 hours ago' this is a pattern, not a once or twice thing - I post then boom - active and on story. Has he got notifications on for my posts? Is he doing this for a reason if so? Sometimes he will be inactive for hours, come on view then straight back offline he can't be doing this to everyone. He has over 2k friends! How would you view this? I don't want to approach him and make things akward with our mutual. Maybe restricting is the best option? I am confused and it feels a bit strange.

Restrict him from seeing your stories, and then see if he is still online right after?

Forgot to mention. I put him on restricted for 48hrs and he litrally stayed offline for 24hrs, just came on once for a couple of min. Then i derestricted him because I didn't want to look petty.

Yeah ok, that is weird then.

He won't know that you've restricted him, though; it'll just look like you haven't posted a story. So why not leave him on restricted?

I think all past posts disappear. I think I may, though then if anything is ever mention I'll just say I messed around with my settings

Just remove him from your social media? For your benefit as you seem extremely invested in this

Why on earth do you care this much? Watching and testing his activity status? From his point of view, you're the nutter monitoring his activity!

Sounds like your stalking your online stalker lol

Also anyone with 1,000’s of friends or followers doesn’t bloody know half of them let’s face it. My ex is always the first viewer on my stories. Just makes me laugh.

You both sound as strangely intense as each other tbh.

The point of putting stuff on SM is so that the people on your SM will read it.

I couldn't imagine doing all that detective work and thinking it all inside out, it sounds exhausting.

Just block him if you don't want him to read what you're putting on there.

You're stalking a stalker.

I get it I'm giving baby reindeer vibes 😂

I assure that wasn't the case I a just... got curious and invested.

It sounds a bit strange. But on the other hand, I don't think I get story notifications for everybody I have on Instagram. It tends to be the same two or three. I don't know why, I've never bothered to do anything with the settings, and they're different degrees of closeness!

It would probably look like I look at their stories faster than I do other people's, but it's because I don't get notified about all of them and only see them when I go on.

So perhaps you're one of the only people where he gets a notification?

Just restrict him from seeing them though if it's bothering you.

I only seem to get email notifications about two of my Facebook friends! And I can't help clicking on them because I have no self control and am usually procrastinating over my emails. Hope they don't think I'm stalking them!

Do your stories contain a lot of pictures of yourself? Maybe he likes looking at them.

I have a few guys who do this, some it's just they were watching someone else's story and mine happens to be the next one it automatically goes to. You can tell because they only watch 1 Story - always upload at least 2-3 at a time to see if they're watching you specifically or it just went to yours in passing.

Most people do the same types of Stories, as a general rule:

Lots of pictures of you = likes looking at pictures of you or if a woman, wants to see how old/fat you look

Lots of text = likes drama

Lots of pictures of your environment = interested in how much money you have

It's giving "it was...Rebekah Vardys account.........."

But yeah it seems unusual and if it makes you uncomfortable I'd remove him as a friend.

I only seem to get stories comr lle up from the same 5 school friends I haven't seen in 20 years amd wasn't close to.

One or two I think we have something in common but no overlap (like I like west ham and she likes man u, so football but not the same club) so maybe there is an algorithm thing. And I press to see stories to get rid of the notification as it was showing weird amd making me miss actual messages.

I think you're thinking too much about it. Just restrict or delete. You don't need to add everyone you've ever met on social media. Stuff like this is exactly why not.

I have unfriended him. If then the mutual friend happens to say "Why have you deleted x y z" ill just say i didn't remember who he was as tbh we havnt actually spoke anyway. I'm sure they'll be no hard feelings

I doubt anyone will care or notice tbf