This is a short snippet of a massive issue so I’ll try to summarise for the point I’m so cross about .. not that I have any right to be cross but I feel it and I don’t know how to deal with it and I don’t want to message people I know.. google isn’t helping either.
I have been married a number of years .. had four children the two youngest are 4 and 2 .. I struggle with depression. My dad died recently and another very close family member died few months before . I had just then given birth … I was at best just going through motions making sure kids were ok so neglected the house and my husband. He then left or in fact I said after he left no you can’t come back so he still says I kicked him out even though he’d packed and “threatened” this time I had just lost patience. Cut to now and i want things to be better and a family unit even if he’s not here so I want him to see whenever but he just turns up he has no fixed address so he ends up
just here each night but I find I’m still so upset by his words and how he loses his temper . But he said tonight to the kids yes she’s a good mum but “@“” wife. I don’t like them being involved in any comments or conversation about our relationship issues let alone when he is just trying to goad me .. but am I being unreasonable is it normal for a couple in any circumstance to talk like that in front of kids? Am i so deluded ? How can I explain to him that me trying to be a good mother doesn’t mean I’m not wanting to try and help things ??