Grandparents & baby clothing / accessories

[Futurethinking2026]

How would you feel if each time the grandparents baby sit they took off the babies accessories like hats, headbands lacy socks etc?

YABU - it’s fine, if they don’t want to keep babies headband / hat etc on while baby is in their care

YANBU - it’s annoying, leave baby as parents dressed them

I'm wondering who on earth would leave a baby's hat on indoors.

If baby is learning to stand/ walk it can be better for them to go barefoot

Is this a reverse perhaps? Eg you are grandparent?

I'm with the grandparents, don't guild the lily!

As long as baby was dressed appropriately for the weather (so not being taken out in the cold without a hat/socks) then I'd let them crack on for the sake of free childcare.

^this is where I'd stand too

My granddaughter often arrives dressed in a pretty dress and tights. I take her out to the play park or to go jumping in puddles or to feed the ducks and paddle in the river. I change her into leggings and wellies while she is here. I have explained to DIL that I don't want to spoil her nice clothes and she doesn't seem to have a problem with it. She goes home dressed as she arrived (or in pyjamas for when she falls asleep in the car!)

Baby accessories 🙃

Id definitely take off the headband because they are offensive to the eye.

@Futurethinking2026 why does a baby need a hairband?? they hardly have any hair! in a warm house, they dont really need sock either, they usually fall off anyway! if babies could talk, they would probably tell tou that the headband is annoying the shit out of them any way!

I'd think they had done me a favour with the headband, they are naff as hell. I'd also think it was logical to take a hat off indoors, unless they're exclusively babysitting outdoors. The socks wouldn't bother me. In fact I would think it was all very trivial and not enough to upset a grandparent about. If all of these things do bother you though you might want to find and pay for another babysitter.

Ok, inadvertent reverse, didn’t intend this, just tried to make it a generic question.

Babies aren't supposed to wear hats indoors. Mine pulls his off at the earliest opportunity.

Headbands are hazards.

I leave my baby sockless wherever possible - lots of nerve endings in the feet, good for his sensory input and movement.

If you're the grandparent, then I don't blame you for the headband, and I don't blame you for not liking the parents' style. But it's their call, it's not worth the row. Remove the unsafe stuff and leave the rest.

You have grandparents who babysit that I assume you trust? Get a grip. They probably think the headband and frilly socks are uncomfortable and unnecessary for a baby

I'd work on the basis that they are babysitting for free and are trusted carers. If my child is warm and comfortable it's not a hill I'm going to die on.

Yeah don't worry it wasn't one of those annoying reverse where people so clearly hate the party they are pretending to be.

Tell them if they don't like it they can find another babysitter

They shouldn't wear hats etc indoors anyway so obv they come off.

Wouldn't bother me because all the things you mentioned the baby would have already taken off.

My DGS usually goes home in totally different clothes than the ones he arrived in and always minus his socks - we have a bank of stuff that we got from Vinted, charity shops etc. My DS and DIL couldn't care less and are just very thankful that we do childcare for them

If the parent is that picky, is just put the 'accessories' back on before pick up.

But if grandma's babysitting free of charge, the parent/s should just keep their mouth shut and be grateful, frankly.

I keep a change of clothes here, because the ones my grandchildren turn up in invariably get something spilled on them or there's a nappy leak. Fortunately my DD couldn't care less what they're dressed in when they're picked up. And she's anti headbands, thank goodness.

I would thinkthe grandparents were concerned for the babys safety rather than dressing her like a dolly
Hats, socks and especially headbands are unnecessary inside the house, can be a choking or suffocating danger and are uncomfortable for a sleeping baby
Surely that's obvious?

I’d think it’s perfectly fine and sensible to take those things off inside

Why on earth do babies need accessories? apart from anything a lot are dangerous

They are not dolls