To tell my manager I’m unhappy?

[onelasttryy]

I’m booking in a catch up tomorrow to say how unhappy I am. That I don’t want to come to her with problems and no solutions but I’m unsure how to resolve this.

It’s actually affecting my mental health so badly now. It’s nothing to do with colleagues, bullying etc, it’s being so bored I cry, that she had admitted that I just get the boring parts of the job to do and my colleague doesn’t and has had a lot invested and developed in her.

Are you neurodiverse @onelasttryy ? Do you think she might be discriminating against you in favour of the other person on the team. People with ND very often get dismissed (silently, unconscious bias) as not being capable and they end up in your situation, not on a truly level playing field.

if you do have any form of ND, it will be very worthwhile bringing it up at the same time in the meeting, so that it gives your manager the complete picture of you as a person.

I can understand your frustration. Unfortunately, there is nearly always boring (or at least boring-but-important) stuff to do in any role - but I get your desire to do less boring stuff and more of the glossy stuff.

I’m not sure if you’ve mentioned whether you and your colleague have the same job title / job description and roughly the same amount of experience / seniority? If they are more senior or experienced, maybe that would help at least partly explain why things are the way they are?

I really hope this meeting with your manager helps give you some clarity, regarding whether you are likely to get the opportunities you are hoping for in your current place of work, or whether a fresh start somewhere else is for the best.

frothing at the mouth with excitement.

heavens 😆

I don’t know this manager, but my heart goes out to her!

I will hide thread to avoid the temptation of crawling back with my mouth frothing!

I don’t mind doing the boring stuff it was split more evenly between the two of us, even 70/30 would be an improvement.

Me and other colleague are the exact same level and our previous experience is probably about equal. Because colleague only does the big projects the manager is very much involved and helps her. Whereas because I do the smaller stuff she generally ignores it.