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To ask what we SHOULD have done during the COVID pandemic

504 replies

tunainatin · 10/11/2024 05:48

So I realise the government made mistakes at the time of COVID. They also acted completely immorally by not following the rules they imposed on everyone else.
However, I suspect any government in this country would have been criticized whatever their response.

I was mulling over the rules and restrictions and trying to work out which ones were actually worthwhile. Some rules seemed so petty (e.g. the one a day walk) but there has to be a line drawn somewhere, otherwise the parks would have been full of people.

Once we were allowed to attend things with restrictions in place, I went to an event which was meant to have masks and social distancing but everyone kind of got carried away and forgot about. Everyone got COVID, including me, badly, and one person was hospitalised.

So if you were the government what would you have done during the pandemic. Which of the bizarre rules we followed do you think saved lives, and which just causes stress or distress?

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Frowningprovidence · 10/11/2024 08:30

I dont know because we all have the benefit of hindsight now which means we all feel very differently than at the time. We also have muddled memories of what happened and when and we all seem to have picked up different messages.

The main message I heard was flatten the curve and protect the nhs

Others heard protect the vulnerable

The main thing I would have changed is the absurdity of bubbles in schools after the big lock down. They were a total nonsense and affected play. The 'open but not open' stage was a pointless nightmare.

Locallassie · 10/11/2024 08:31

As a teacher I worked in school through both lockdowns. I was teaching ft and expected to produce a full week of online learning and live lessons. What I was teaching in person wasn’t possibly to ask people to do at home. My daughter wasn’t classed as a key workers child until the 2nd lockdown so I had the same issues as every other working parent. All while being told by the media that I was a slacker, waster, shirker etc as schools weren’t open.

Yogaandchocolate · 10/11/2024 08:34

HereForTheFreeLunch · 10/11/2024 08:29

'Keeping the old and vulnerable at home' is too simplistic.

Who are the vulnerable? Young people died too (in my own family) . And being overweight was classed as a factor increasing risk. In the early days there were a lot more young and more or less healthy people dying.

I think that, with the benefit of hindsight, it’s also easy to forget that in the early days we didn’t know much about the virus or how badly healthy people would be affected. It was an unknown entity.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 08:34

Givemethreerings · 10/11/2024 08:30

What could be done differently?

Not let politics determine the approach.

In February 2020, the Boris Johnson Government was still in love with Brexit and determined to show British exceptionalism from Europe by doing things differently even in the face of a pandemic.

It saw what was happening in Italy, in Switzerland, Germany, France etc, but instead of thinking “this will be the UK in two weeks” they thought “Righho, excellent opportunity to show Britain is different to Europe and can stand defiant against this pesky virus”.

Also inspired by the approach of their pals in the Trump administration in the US.

So any actions (public health warnings, staffing up, resources to hospitals, making equipment available, getting systems in place - eg coordinating with the regions and local authorities) eventually taken were too late.

Just like paying into a pension, you get a higher return when you start acting earlier.

Never underestimate how much politics and foreign policy played into the UK’s handling of the pandemic. Never mind the death toll if you can sock it to the neighbours. And many countries in the world know it.

Pandemic management is inherently political. Especially in a democracy, as governments know they're going to be accountable to the electorate for what they do sooner or later. Though even in China the population eventually forced the state's hand.

Covid meant some people and interests were going to have to be prioritised at the expense of others. There was never any way round that. The decision about who gets to be protected and who's the collateral is political. Even with the best and most sensible governance in the world, which the clowns in the UK clearly did not provide, that would still be true.

Locallassie · 10/11/2024 08:34

Oh and ventilation was never improved and we certainly never got a hepa filter. My classroom windows open less than 2 inches.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 08:38

Locallassie · 10/11/2024 08:34

Oh and ventilation was never improved and we certainly never got a hepa filter. My classroom windows open less than 2 inches.

That was always stupid too. Quite apart from covid, air quality in schools isn't good enough. We knew that in 2019.

Spectre8 · 10/11/2024 08:38

Hard to day really but I think going forward maybe a short shap lockdown or say 2-3 weeks to prevent spreading whilst they prep hospitals with equipment etc to cope and get schools ready with whatever they need. The allow non vulnerable back out and those who are to decide if they stay at home or not

It also need sus the people to not be stupid and send ppl out when they are not well. Unfortunately even today you see people getting on train coughing, sneezing away who clearly have a cold. It's annoying you are spreading it to other ppl. Wear a mask or work from home or go off sick...this obviously means we need businesses to ensure that ppl don't feel pressure to get into work

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 08:40

I don't think another lockdown is possible at the moment. Nor that people would believe a short sharp 2-3 weeks actually meant that. I wouldn't.

Ohthatsabitshit · 10/11/2024 08:40

I think “eat out to help out” was ridiculous. As far as lockdowns went, I’d have shut the boarders more tightly like they did in New Zealand.

SnakesAndArrows · 10/11/2024 08:40

Nacknick · 10/11/2024 08:16

@usererror99 what would you have had me do? CEV but with a healthy husband and primary school aged child?

They won’t answer. These posters never do.

dayswithaY · 10/11/2024 08:41

Schools should never have closed - GCSEs and A levels should have been taken. There was so much damage done to children, including those who had grades awarded by an algorithm.

Parker231 · 10/11/2024 08:42

dayswithaY · 10/11/2024 08:41

Schools should never have closed - GCSEs and A levels should have been taken. There was so much damage done to children, including those who had grades awarded by an algorithm.

Who would have done the teaching? Teachers weren’t immune from becoming ill from Covid.

Teanbiscuits33 · 10/11/2024 08:43

Locallassie · 10/11/2024 08:34

Oh and ventilation was never improved and we certainly never got a hepa filter. My classroom windows open less than 2 inches.

I think this would have been the answer, really. Mass provision of air filters and ventilation for all enclosed public buildings, but as much done outside as was sensibly possible.

The first lockdown while the virus was unknown - Fine. After that, better procurement of medical supplies, air filters etc so the hospitals could cope, letting the elderly make their own informed decision about whether to take the risk (since they were the ones with the least time left, they might not have wanted to be cooped up).

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 08:45

Ohthatsabitshit · 10/11/2024 08:40

I think “eat out to help out” was ridiculous. As far as lockdowns went, I’d have shut the boarders more tightly like they did in New Zealand.

NZ was able to do that because of very specific geographical factors that don't apply to the UK, a country with a land border, reliant on a just in time food import chain to feed ourselves and on one of the world's busiest shipping lanes.

With you on EOTHO though! I have never understood what the point of that was.

cheezncrackers · 10/11/2024 08:45

Until we had a vaccine we had to restrict the circulation of the population to control the spread. And we needed to control the spread to prevent the NHS from being overwhelmed, because if that had happened we'd have had massive numbers of people just dying at home or in the streets, as happened in China.

Some of the later rules, like 'the rule of six' and the constantly changing advice on travel that forced people to abandon their plans and rush home immediately were bloody stupid; but in the initial stages, when no one really knew what we were dealing with and the govt/health advisors had to try and stop a mass casualty event, I'm not sure what else they could've done really.

They accepted from the start that we'd all probably get it eventually, but it was about spreading out that time frame of infection and hopefully providing a vaccine quickly to give people some protection. They did that. Overall, IMO, they did a decent job with what they had.

WaitingForMojo · 10/11/2024 08:46

romdowa · 10/11/2024 07:40

I was in Ireland for part of it and you had to stay within 2km of your address and the Irish police were actually enforcing it and stopping people on the roads. You also couldn't buy clothing and the police were also in supermarkets guarding the clothing sections 🤣 the Irish government went absolutely batty altogether. Had I been in charge then I definitely wouldn't have gone quite that far.

Wales was a bit like this!

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 10/11/2024 08:51

Helloflo · 10/11/2024 07:15

Exactly what we did but without party loving Johnson involved.
My sister is doctor in a major London Hospital. She was broken by it. On the rare times I got to see her during the pandemic I found her laying on the floor of her kitchen crying and unable to move.

She eventually tolde that that night they had been overwhelmed with patients needing beds and so many had died she didn't think she could go back.

She was utterly broken.
My lovely neighbours lost their son who was only 38. He had no pre-existing conditions.
At my friend's work place they lost 5 staff members. All Asian or black men. She said she misses them everyday.

We should have been better prepared.
It will happen again. But more people will die because we've turned into an anti vaccine world of idiots.

I’m so sorry you experienced the hard end of the pandemic. It’s easy for the many who had Covid and got over it to be flippant and say it was all over hyped.

I hope your sister has had a break and some help to come to terms with what she had to endure and thank her from me, a stranger on the internet, for her service.

dayswithaY · 10/11/2024 08:51

Parker231 · 10/11/2024 08:42

Who would have done the teaching? Teachers weren’t immune from becoming ill from Covid.

Neither were NHS staff, supermarket employees, police and many more key workers.

scalt · 10/11/2024 08:52

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 08:24

Yes, and I must say I was amazed by the people who didn't see that coming.

We chose to make a public health issue a criminal law one. We gave the police shit tools to utilise in the form of badly written and confusing legislation and guidance. And then what a fucking shock, the state exercised power disproportionately against those with least power and didn't do a very coherent or sensible job a lot of the time.

A hundred times this. And now, lots of people, including myself, will never trust the government or the police again, because of the abuse of power; and then, the blatant hypocrisy. I thought it might be the odd MP being caught having Christmas dinner with his or her family, but I was really surprised it was on the scale of Partygate.

Reportedly, the police were not even consulted, and they didn't even know that they were expected to enforce lockdown, until Saint Boris announced it on TV.

Ohthatsabitshit · 10/11/2024 08:52

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 08:45

NZ was able to do that because of very specific geographical factors that don't apply to the UK, a country with a land border, reliant on a just in time food import chain to feed ourselves and on one of the world's busiest shipping lanes.

With you on EOTHO though! I have never understood what the point of that was.

I did say more tightly rather than the total isolation that was available to NZ. (And actually they did have some weak points with people visiting from outside.)

I think if people had reliably followed the rules rather than having to be all rebellious at every inconvenience we would have been able to work out what worked or didn’t MUCH more quickly and effectively.

crumblingschools · 10/11/2024 08:54

Didn’t Sweden have a higher death rate than the other Nordic countries, they too were guilty of big looking after their elderly in care homes

HowYouSpellingThat10 · 10/11/2024 08:54

I think the public was a lot more compliant than the planning.

People took rules of six etc very literally. I think the behind the scenes was 'we'll say six for Christmas knowing no one will leave the seventh person out when it's their child but to discourage 25 people Christmas dinners'.

Or we will say no picnics meaning don't all gather for a jolly a foot apart in Hyde Park but we don't really care if you stop part way along a deserted coastal path for a sandwich.

People on here were mental with taking it absolutely to the letter and sometimes beyond.

Some of the decisions were taken more by the public demanding action.

It's really hard to mitigate for the behavioural aspects.

Parker231 · 10/11/2024 08:56

dayswithaY · 10/11/2024 08:51

Neither were NHS staff, supermarket employees, police and many more key workers.

And huge numbers got ill affecting the service delivered. More difficult in a school when there are only a small number of teachers to start with. If three out of the 10 teachers are off ill, what do you do with their classes.

romdowa · 10/11/2024 08:56

WaitingForMojo · 10/11/2024 08:46

Wales was a bit like this!

Did ye have to have vaccination passports to go to restaurants / cafes /bars when they opened up? It was crazy here that summer, everyone delighted that they could go into a pub. Bouncers at the door checking your vaccination status 🙈

KoalaCalledKevin · 10/11/2024 08:56

Some rules seemed so petty (e.g. the one a day walk)

This was never an actual rule. This was just something some MPs said on tv, just like how you could only exercise for an hour.
The rules said nothing about either of those things. That was something that annoyed me during the pandemic. The rules said X, someone on tv would say "well I think an hour is maybe reasonable" and suddenly you've got people believing that the actual law is an hour and getting worked up that their neighbour has been out for 65 minutes.

If there is another pandemic I think we're buggered who's going to comply ?

I think it depends on the pandemic. I think if it was something closer to Ebola in terms of symptoms and mortality rate then more people would.

What they should have done differently was not give Michelle Mone any money.

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