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To ask what we SHOULD have done during the COVID pandemic

504 replies

tunainatin · 10/11/2024 05:48

So I realise the government made mistakes at the time of COVID. They also acted completely immorally by not following the rules they imposed on everyone else.
However, I suspect any government in this country would have been criticized whatever their response.

I was mulling over the rules and restrictions and trying to work out which ones were actually worthwhile. Some rules seemed so petty (e.g. the one a day walk) but there has to be a line drawn somewhere, otherwise the parks would have been full of people.

Once we were allowed to attend things with restrictions in place, I went to an event which was meant to have masks and social distancing but everyone kind of got carried away and forgot about. Everyone got COVID, including me, badly, and one person was hospitalised.

So if you were the government what would you have done during the pandemic. Which of the bizarre rules we followed do you think saved lives, and which just causes stress or distress?

OP posts:
Aggie15 · 10/11/2024 13:26

needhelpwiththisplease · 10/11/2024 13:24

@Aggie15 and all that still happened with schools and playgrounds shut.
With children's education and mental health absolutely shot.

UK never had a proper lockdown.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 13:29

Aggie15 · 10/11/2024 13:26

UK never had a proper lockdown.

Which doesn't remotely affect the correctness of her point about playgrounds.

StuntNun · 10/11/2024 13:51

They should have stopped people coming into the country or made them quarantine or even just tested their temperature when they entered the country. Instead it was a a case of "the last flight from x will be entering the UK on x date so everyone get here while you can" with absolutely no attempt to stop COVID from being spread by travellers.

The rationing rules from the supermarkets were the biggest burden for me apart from homeschooling which was horrendous. We're a family of 6 and were only allowed one box of eggs per shop whereas someone that lived along could buy the same amount of eggs. We ended up having to go shopping more often because we weren't allowed to buy enough food for our family.

OldJohn · 10/11/2024 13:54

@StuntNun I agree we should have shut the borders for a few weeks, or months, while we got other sensible arrangements in place. We are an island so could have kept the virus out if we wanted to.

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 14:04

Aggie15 · 10/11/2024 13:26

UK never had a proper lockdown.

What did you want?

Gwenhwyfar · 10/11/2024 14:29

needhelpwiththisplease · 10/11/2024 07:24

Schools and playgrounds should have remained open.
The old and vulnerable should have stayed home.
Everyone else should have gotten on with it.

Why should schools have stayed open when everything else was closed? It wasn't true what they claimed about children not spreading the disease.

Outside playgrouds and most other outside things should have been kept open as long as no massive crowds.

Gwenhwyfar · 10/11/2024 14:31

It's not possible to completely separate the elderly from other-aged people. They need contact eg in care homes, other-aged people are caring for the elderly. It wouldn't be fair to lock them up too so they are out and about mixing with everyone else then coming into contact with the elderly.

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 10/11/2024 14:34

They should have paid furlough to all CEV people rather than leave it up to the employer to claim.

My neighbour is CEV but her employer decided not to claim furlough as they were key workers so she was only entitled to SSP. She ended up struggling in the first lockdown as she didn't have enough money coming in to live on.

She ignored the rest of the lockdowns and went to work as she couldn't afford to stop off on SSP.

JudgeJ · 10/11/2024 14:48

ReformMyArse · 10/11/2024 08:06

Close borders
Keep schools open

Out MN in charge of any future catastrophes, they seem to know all the answers it seems!

User79853257976 · 10/11/2024 15:05

This might not be popular but we should have closed our borders in Jan/Feb and been like Australia and New Zealand. Able to carry on as normal just with no one coming in unless essential with a two week quarantine at the airport.

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 15:07

User79853257976 · 10/11/2024 15:05

This might not be popular but we should have closed our borders in Jan/Feb and been like Australia and New Zealand. Able to carry on as normal just with no one coming in unless essential with a two week quarantine at the airport.

It's not the popularity issue it's that it wasn't feasbile

Whitty confirmed this at the enquiry

needhelpwiththisplease · 10/11/2024 15:15

@Gwenhwyfar because education and children's mental health is more important than buying some shit from b&m that wasn't essential.

Gwenhwyfar · 10/11/2024 15:17

needhelpwiththisplease · 10/11/2024 15:15

@Gwenhwyfar because education and children's mental health is more important than buying some shit from b&m that wasn't essential.

What about adults' mental health?

needhelpwiththisplease · 10/11/2024 15:26

@Gwenhwyfar what could an adult not do?
They could shop, exercise, smoke, drink speak to people on the phone. Work if not furloughed.Do hobbies, go out on their own to exercise.
Adults suffered as well, no one is denying that but to close everything a child has was fucking batshit.
It didn't even affect me as my children are adults but even I could see how ridiculous it was.

Getitwright · 10/11/2024 15:32

You have to tell yourself that hindsight is a wonderful thing. Very few people alive would have had any idea of how bad a pandemic could actually be, and the news clips coming out of Italy were absolutely horrendous. It didn’t help that the country had a set of self serving, not very bright pillocks in charge of decision making (as opposed to giving factual information) Add in the selfish me me me attitude that tends to prevail across society, coupled with the no one is telling me what to do types, and they had to base decisions on keeping the sensible majority safe. So you legislate to the lowest trust base🤷‍♀️

It will be considered a huge learning curve, anything similar comes along, certain things probably won’t be the same.

JenniferBooth · 10/11/2024 15:34

HowYouSpellingThat10 · 10/11/2024 08:54

I think the public was a lot more compliant than the planning.

People took rules of six etc very literally. I think the behind the scenes was 'we'll say six for Christmas knowing no one will leave the seventh person out when it's their child but to discourage 25 people Christmas dinners'.

Or we will say no picnics meaning don't all gather for a jolly a foot apart in Hyde Park but we don't really care if you stop part way along a deserted coastal path for a sandwich.

People on here were mental with taking it absolutely to the letter and sometimes beyond.

Some of the decisions were taken more by the public demanding action.

It's really hard to mitigate for the behavioural aspects.

Were you actually on here in the run up to Christmas 2020? I posted that my Christmas dinner would be at my parents and that there would only be four of us. i was treated as if i was going to a rave! And i wasnt the only one who had that kind of shit chucked at them on here

JenniferBooth · 10/11/2024 15:44

taxguru · 10/11/2024 09:24

Infection rates were already showing falls BEFORE the lockdowns. That was just down to people being told about it, and being "recommended" to take precautions such as avoiding indoor crowded places and social distancing. I think that message should have been sent out a lot earlier which may well have lessened the first peak considerably.

I also agree about "protecting" OAPs and the ECV groups of people. Plough the resources into making them safe, a "ring of steel" around them if you will. Facilitate home deliveries of foods and other goods, "protected" home visits by doctors, nurses, carers etc., of staff using proper PPE to protect the vulnerable. For those working who don't want to risk going to work, pay them full wage for the duration of the pandemic - much cheaper paying a small number of people a full wage than furlough to millions who should never have been stopped form working! Certainly no stupidity like discharging covid patients to care homes!!

VERY limited closure of businesses, basically just the highest risk ones, maybe cramped pubs, cafes and nightclubs. Proper financial support for businesses that "have to" close, no stupid exclusions for financial support! Also limited support for those who have to scale down operations, i.e. reduced numbers of tables in cafes, or where opening hours are deemed a sensible precaution to reduce risk of spread (i.e. pubs closing earlier). Stupid for building sites to be closed down when most work is outdoors/ventilated and most workers are younger/healthier people - by all means, remove any ECV workers from the building site, but not young healthy 21 year old lads! Same with factories, warehouses, haulage, etc. "Social Distancing" could apply in most places.

After all, after the first lockdown, lots of things did re-open, ie shops, factories, warehouses, construction sites etc - they have to as you can't just shut down for a couple of years. It's all a matter of balance and protecting the most vulnerable - not protecting people who don't need nor want protecting at a cost of hundreds of billions!

And more than anything, LOGICAL rules. None of this "tier" stupidity. None of the Welsh supermarkets being banned from selling anything other than food. None of park benches being covered in hazard tape or locks on gates to kids play parks!

Agree with you. Just wanted to add that a supermarket here did the same thing. Closed the upper floor where clothes and kitchenware and books are sold. Not Wales North Essex

FinallyHere · 10/11/2024 15:52

needhelpwiththisplease · 10/11/2024 07:24

Schools and playgrounds should have remained open.
The old and vulnerable should have stayed home.
Everyone else should have gotten on with it.

Id be on board with this so long as teachers and TAs in the vulnerable categories and those caring for elderly dependents were maid or moved to non-contact roles.

JenniferBooth · 10/11/2024 15:56

Aggie15 · 10/11/2024 13:26

UK never had a proper lockdown.

Tell that to the people who got fined.
the working class people who got targeted by the police. Including the one at the very beginning of Lockdown 1 who was told he couldnt stand on his own doorstep So sick of this gaslighting crap.

UsernameMcUsername · 10/11/2024 16:22

The "Lets shut ourselves off like Australia" thing was always ludicrous. Australia is relatively isolated anyway, while the UK is a stone's throw from a densely populated continent, which it relies on for all sorts of essential imports. How many lorries need to trundle back and forth to France, Belgium & the Netherlands every hour just to keep essential supply changes going?

TheKeatingFive · 10/11/2024 16:27

UsernameMcUsername · 10/11/2024 16:22

The "Lets shut ourselves off like Australia" thing was always ludicrous. Australia is relatively isolated anyway, while the UK is a stone's throw from a densely populated continent, which it relies on for all sorts of essential imports. How many lorries need to trundle back and forth to France, Belgium & the Netherlands every hour just to keep essential supply changes going?

Quite.

Also the UK has an actual land border with the EU that it was never going to be able to close.

Getitwright · 10/11/2024 16:27

Most folks can only relate to their own experiences, be it furloughed or not, looking after children or not, trying to keep vulnerable family members safe, where they lived, type of accommodation/garden, etc…… Governments cannot legislate for the individual needs, they have to find a path that keeps the majority as safe as possible, particularly in the very early, pre vaccine stages. Some folks will have had a better lockdown, for some it will have been awful.

amoreoamicizia · 10/11/2024 16:29

usererror99 · 10/11/2024 05:58

Anyone in at risk categories - anyone in receipt of old age pension or CEV should have been told to stay home and the rest of us should have got on with it

I agree with this and I said this at the time. The problem was that the lower age threshold to be below the retirement age to be effective, it needed to be around 55, 60 ish and that would never have been adopted as it highlights the stark discrepancy between when you start getting older and retirement age.

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 16:29

UsernameMcUsername · 10/11/2024 16:22

The "Lets shut ourselves off like Australia" thing was always ludicrous. Australia is relatively isolated anyway, while the UK is a stone's throw from a densely populated continent, which it relies on for all sorts of essential imports. How many lorries need to trundle back and forth to France, Belgium & the Netherlands every hour just to keep essential supply changes going?

I know it bugged me then and still now it's said. Even after it has been confirmed it wasn't possible.

cardibach · 10/11/2024 16:29

Politicians? Not handed billions to mates for shit PPE and so on. Not broken the rules. Locked down sooner and more effectively (airports in particular) so they would have been shorter.