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My 4 year old daughter hasn't had contact with her father since June I explained in another forum I posted before the reasons why. She hasn't seen him since June no contact from him or family what so ever. On Monday night I received a message on Facebook that my daughter's father had been seeing a girl and he had attacked her on Sunday past there last week. I didn't know what way to take it so I said can u ring me as maybe I'm being taken for a fool here. So I rang them and the girls friend came on and said my daughter's father was seeing her friend and he attacked her on Sunday.Then the friend and her
Mother came on crying on the phone saying he hit her and smashed the windows in her car. I asked why they were informing me and they said because of my daughter I said my daughter doesn't have contact with him . They told me the police wanted to speak to me as he was arrested and he was on bail and wasn't allowed to be back at his home address had to have a bail address. They told me the police wanted to speak to me because of my daughter but I'm yet to hear. I'm starting to smell a rat in the whole situation. My daughters father messaged me on Facebook on Tuesday night asking to speak to me after having no contact for months. I ignored the first 5 messages then he rung me and I answered and said stop ringing and he said I need to meet you and talk to you about the child I can't wait for a court date any longer to have access to her I really don't want to miss Christmas . He wants me to pick him up and talk about my daughter. I smell a rat as these girls were messaging me saying he attacked this girl then he's messaging me after no contact since June saying he wants to meet me at 9 o clock but apparently the girls told me he's on bail with a curfew. I'm smelling a rat in the whole situation and it's really upsetting me because I don't know why I was dragged in to this if this girl was attacked and now he wants to meet to talk.. what would you do ina. Situation like this my heads pickled to think I'm being set up

Well surely whatever he's done he's still her father so ought to have regular visitation with her? I can't see what the alleged assault on this girl has to do with you or his rights as a dad. There's no connection surely?

Has he ever been violent towards you?

Exactly it's notbing to do with me but they rang me to see if he was ever violent to me and apparently the family nurse told them in the hospital when she went to get examined apparently the nurse said in the hospital he wasn't allowed to ever see his child again.. sure a family nurse In a hospital can't make that call

That's what the girl told me who was attacked 😳

There is so much that doesn't add up here OP

Can't you ring the local police and ask them if they want to speak to you?

I was going to but I wanted to hear what he had to say first and why he contacted me. The girls told me he was on bail with a curfew and wasn't allowed back at his home address . On the other hand he's messaging me asking me to him meet tonight at 9 and could I drop him back to his home address. So confused and was going to ring police as the girls told me apparently the police wanted to contact me to ask if the same situation had happened to me and to ask about my daughter . Then the girls told me not to say they contacted me as it would "jeprodise her case"

Don't meet him or speak to him, don't have any more contact with the women who messaged you either. The police will contact you if they want to speak to you. Just don't get involved and keep your child away from it all. I don't know the reason why your ex hasn't had contact with your daughter but I would wait for the court date.

Would Sarah's law application about him be a possibility

What is that?

There's a lot to unpick here.
He hasn't had contact, and as far as you have said, he hasn't asked for contact until now, and hasn't applied for contact through the court. So why is he talking about a court date? Or have I misunderstood?
It's strange that he is asking you to pick him up, what's that about? If you think you should meet him to discuss your DC, don't get in a car with him by yourself. Meet him in a public place if you have to, but really it would be better to discuss possible contact on the phone in the first instance.

Whatever is going on it doesn't sound good for your daughter. Or you.

If he hasn't seen her since June then why would he suddenly be so desperate not to miss Christmas? Block him and block the women too. Sounds like you're being dragged into someone else's drama.

No he hasn't had contact since June. He is only messaging me looking to see her now after this girl had messaged me saying he attacked her. A lot of unanswered questions if I do say so myself ...

It sounds to me that he wants contact now without going to court so it will look favourably for sentencing during his court date, nothing to do with missing the child or Xmas, just a more lenient sentence if he proves he's involved in his childs life. Still unclear why the girl needed to contact you though.

I'd steer clear of everyone tbh.

Why hasn’t he had contact since June? No one is going to trek off and look up your other thread, but presumably it’s relevant?

Yes, that explains it very neatly!

Oh wow this is a really really good point!?

Listen to your gut. Don't listen to anyone who tells you something you can't verify. If the police wanted to contact you, they would do so. Block them all. If the police want to speak to you, they can knock on your door in uniform having arrived in a liveried police car.

Thank you