Hi,
This feels a bit like the rush of teenage hormones all over again, but how do you know if a co-worker likes you?
Context- My department has recently undergone a restructure, in the meantime I have been acquainted with a guy in the opposite team on and off. I didn’t think much of it, but then I feel like the past few weeks have been weird with him, like there is intense attraction during various encounters.
i am definitely drawn to him, he’s very attractive, but I’m not sure if it’s in my head or there is something really there. I find when that happens I tend to shy away, rather than go with it.
We have a lot of eye contact, which at times seems really intense. I find when we are one to one it’s a bit awkward. In stance I was getting the lift to my work and he was there at the same time. I got in first and then he followed and stood beside me to engage. He asked how my weekend was (which I know is very generic) and I was really tired that day, so I was flustered and just replied ‘not much, just relaxied’ ha. Then I asked him the same and he said similar, like he didn’t really want to say and the conversation cut short. So was he just being friendly and if he why did he shut down too? It was awkward so then I changed the subject and spoke about work.
Since then we pass each other across the office and it’s the same eye contact. Even when I don’t look, I can see him looking.
The next month will be full on, as I have to engage with him for work quite a bit, but I don’t know if my own feelings are just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
I should add I am 43, he is 36, so quite a gap. I know I’m a bit old to feel like this. Btw- I have never felt like this for another coworker before, so it’s a bit surreal. Any advice?