AM I A HORRIBLE WIFE ?

[3rdsunshine]

Ikea bed delivered today, home with kids all day today and tomorrow , lots of boxes and just mess everywhere (small house) baby crawling etc. FIL said he will build it for us today as husband at work from 8am till 5pm but husband said NO HE WILL DO IT BY HIMSELF AFTER WORK AND TOLD FIL NOT TO TOUCH IT . I knew husband will struggle as tired but he REFUSED any help. It is currently 22:26 and he just started building it being obviously very unhappy to be doing this but still refuses any help .I could happily build it tonight by myself but he wont let me ?! he will also not let his father do it tomorrow morning . I said to him that if he does not do it tonight then I will do it or FIl will do it tomorrow .
AM I HORRIBLE FOR MAKING HIM DO IT IF HES NOT ALLOWING ANYBODY TO TOUCH IT ?
IS IT A PRIDE MAN THING ?
HE ANNOYS ME ;)

AM I HORRIBLE FOR MAKING HIM DO IT IF HES NOT ALLOWING ANYBODY TO TOUCH IT ?

This doesn't make any sense I'm afraid.

He's choosing to do it, isn't he?

Why the bloody capital letters? We get the message, your husband is a dick.

I understand your frustration - you don't want all the boxes lying around, you offered a solution (FIL assembling or you doing it this evening) but he declined; now he's being grumpy about doing it himself.

He is being unreasonable on this occasion.

You're not making your husband do anything! He could have allowed his Dad to help earlier on in the day, but refused his offer. He could have asked his Dad to help him this evening, but didn't. He could ask his Dad to help him in the morning, but won't. On top of that, he won't allow you to help him either!! If he's tired, and refuses to let anyone help, due to male pride, then that's his own stupidity!! You can't help someone, who refuses to help themselves!

Please stop shouting. You should have asked FIL to do it while your husband was at work. It’s not like he would have dismantled it on principle.

Loads of unnecessary drama.

What do you mean he won't 'let you' do it? Just do it!

@Entertherubicon because I can

@Sethera exactly this !

Could you speak up, please?

Next time? Just manage yourself

@TwattyMcFuckFace well I made him build it tonight because I said he either do it tonight or if he does not -his dad is coming over tomorrow to do it for us ;)

Right so what's the drama?

Why are you asking if you're a 'horrible wife'?

Much ado about nothing

It’s his decision not to accept help, you shouldn’t worry about it.

The winky faces are throwing me off

@ttcat37 goodbye then ;))

So he wouldn’t ‘allow’ anyone else to do it today, and now he’s doing it at night after work when he doesn’t really want to do it, but he’s going to anyway because he doesn’t want someone else to do it tomorrow …? All of which are his decisions, and yet you’re worried you’re a ‘horrible wife’?

I can’t understand why he’s even involved himself and is controlling who puts the bloody bed up if he’s at work and you’re at home and his dad’s happy to help you. Why didn’t you just put it up?

Or are you afraid of sulking/temper/other consequences of his feeling emasculated and undermined over assembling a kid’s bed? If that’s the case, then your problem is that you have a horrible husband.

"...he wont let me ?! he will also not let his father..."

Who put him in charge of what everyone is or isn't allowed to do?

He sounds like a complete dick.

Have you had a couple of wines per chance?

yet you’re worried you’re a ‘horrible wife’?

She’s very clearly not though is she.

@EnjoythemoneyJane not at all, it is our bed though and
we could have easily do it by ourself (me and dad in law) but we decided against it due to being worried he may kick us out, take the kids and ran away to North Pole

@Fevertreelover will pass the message