You shouldn't still be annoyed, but you are

[Simonlebonbon]

Do you have anything that happened many moons ago but still low key angers you to this day?
I'll share mine. This is lighthearted by the way, I'm not needing therapy to let this go or anything, I just thought I'd see if anyone had similar things happen.

Years ago my colleagues and I decided we'd take turns hosting a come dine with me night. One colleague attended the evenings but chose to not host, which was fine. Her name is Sally.
So my menu wasn't anything special but dishes I enjoyed cooking.
So my starter went down well (scallops and pea puree if you're interested) and then my main was homemade spinach and ricotta tortellini in a roasted red onion and red pepper sauce, I'd slowly cooked for hours. To be topped with fresh chili and basil with some homemade garlic bread. I even bought a really nice aged parmesan.
Anyway as my sauce is simmering with its fresh and lovely flavour I went to quickly check on my son who was a toddler at the time before I served up.
I went downstairs and smug fucking Sally is smiling like a Cheshire cat telling me she's added a special ingredient to help with my sauce.
It looked weird and smelt quite sweet so I wondered if she'd added something like honey but on no, fucking Sally had added over half of BIG bottle of generic brand tomato ketchup to the sauce I'd lovingly simmered for hours, with olive oil and all my fresh ingredients. Tomato bloody ketchup.
She was so happy about it, eating it and winking at me over dinner, telling the girls how she'd "fixed" my sauce. It was inedible. Destroyed with that sickly, vingeray taste.
The others were polite about it but nobody really enjoyed it.
My pudding was a lemoncello trifle which was also recieved quite well. Obviously though I lost out with my disgusting main course 😂
Sally for months after kept telling people how she'd fixed my sauce, I'm over it now but I did secretly want to punch her every time she mentioned it for the first few weeks.

Was she at least pronouncing it incorrectly?

Great thread! I have so many that still rankle:

• Arse of a bloke that went around telling people I'd slept with him. Found out a decade later when someone mentioned it, then looked cynically at me when I said it wasn't true. Ten years of my circle believing this!
• Sold some hamster equipment (a cage and toys) to a friend at school. She said she'd pay me the next week. Never paid. I reminded her a few times and she started laughing at me.
• Lent £20 to a person I was friends with, she'd just had a baby and was broke. I asked her for it the next time I saw her, she said she hadn't got it. A couple more times, and she started mocking me for asking.
• Lent £100 (can you spot a theme here?!) to a friend until he was paid. When he was paid he treated himself to a few Yankee candles which were fairly pricey. I asked him for the money back I'd lent him and got it back a few days later when he THREW it at me with a miffed expression.

She said it as bru-shet-uh. Which probably isn't correct if you're Italian. But is apparently the "correct" British pronunciation.

I wasn’t popular in primary school, one of a couple of children without white skin in the class and I was bullied relentlessly for it. Was often left out, not invited to parties, children didn’t want to play with me…

There was a time when everyone had glitter pens and used them for art. I remember asking my parents and desperately wanting some but they didn’t get them straight away. Meanwhile, no one shared theirs with me. Eventually I received a set from ‘Santa’. They were so much nicer than everyone else’s - they just had silver, gold, red whereas mine had every colour in the rainbow too. I was ecstatic. When I took them in the first time everyone wanted to be my friend to borrow them. I’d never been popular, didn’t know how to handle it, didn’t say no as I wanted them to like me. They all ruined my special present, didn’t look after them, bit them, cut the end off. I was devastated and my parents just got annoyed with me for letting everyone borrow them. I never got any more and didn’t get to enjoy the present I had received - I still remember the hurt so clearly today

I moved into a new home and was given a potted orchid as a present. I normally kill all plants, but for some reason I got on well with this orchid. It flourished. It flowered every year. I had an affection for it. My friend Sally came round one day and saw my orchid and said it was getting overgrown and needed trimming back. She offered to do it. I know nothing about plants and assumed she knew what she was talking about. She stripped it back to a few twigs, and guess what, a few weeks later it died. I’m still gutted about that. (I have forgiven Sally though and am actually meeting up with her this week 😁).

DH took a female work colleague out for several meals while working away from home. I found out about it; he didn’t tell me. He paid for the meals but insists it was just a work relationship; he worked very closely with her.
He’s apologized many times and said he’ll never repeat this so I should probably move on but can’t; many months later I’m still seething about the secrecy.
I’m surprised there aren’t more stories about husbands!

❤

i remember unpopularity at school (didn’t face racism though).
it doesn’t leave you

So many, but this one particularly irks. I was almost nine months pregnant and wandering around my older daughter's primary school summer fair on a scorching Saturday. There was a huge queue of youngsters at the crazy hair and sticker tattoos stall. As I waddled past, the woman who was working on the stall, a mum who I was on nodding terms with, asked if I'd hold the fort while she popped to the loo. I was a bit taken aback but, hey, I was pregnant, not ill, so I obliged. You guessed it: she never returned. I was stuck there with rivers of sweat running down my body and my back on fire as I backcombed, sprayed and applied tattoos to child after child while their parents looked on. I'm 20 years older now and wouldn't hesitate to walk away, but the stall was lucrative, I'm a people pleaser, and I simply didn't possess the agency to abandon it.

Sally was awful!
2 incidents I can think of are:

• When I was first with my boyfriend (now husband of many years) and we went round to his parents house we played a dominoes type game and although I didn’t really know how to play I was winning. I needed to go to the toilet quickly and whilst I was gone my now MIL switched the dominoes so I lost! She fessed up at the end…I still don’t understand why she did it and I’m irked to this day! It’s the injustice of it!
• The other is I live near a primary school and one winter I had a lady who always parked outside my house with a little newborn baby. Each day, twice a day she struggled this little baby out of the car and into a thick jacket and back out out again to get into the car. I had a lovely star blanket I’d been given for my son a couple of years previously and asked if she wanted to borrow it as you can have it open in the car seat and easily wrap it round them when you get them out. She gratefully accepted but a couple of weeks later I didn’t see her again. Her eldest had apparently left the school and I didn’t have any contact details for her so I lost the star blanket 🥲, More recent I saw her in a shop in town and I just wanted to shout at her…where my star blanket? but seeing as it’s almost 10 years ago I felt a bit silly so didn’t….😂

Many, many years ago, I was in a brick a brac type shop with my mum. Went to look at a crappy figurine and got SCREECHED at by the cow of an owner about how we mustn't TOUCH!

And for many, many years, I would not so much as look at the place when we drove past. Then, after I passed my driving test, when I drove past. Until about 2 years ago, when it got taken over by a mini-mart, and now I will look at it every time I drive past. And I smile, because there will no longer be any stupid bric a brac for some stupid bat to yell at a small girl over. Even though said bat must be long dead and gone by now. And yes, I am that petty

Years ago I worked on the checkout of a big supermarket. From time to time we had people packing for charity, and one day they were collecting for a sheep sanctuary, a charity close to my heart as I love animals. The girl packing at my till was lovely, very friendly and careful with people's shopping. A couple came through and asked for their stuff to be packed, she obliged and the man went to put some money in the collecting box, then said "oh no, I don't believe in animal charities" and put it in another box instead. Wanker.

I leant my uni friend my expensive biker boots (age19/1990s). Had to ask for them back as she’d had them for too long. She told me her mum had taken them to a car boot sale! I was gutted, especially as she’d have profited from them. They were loaded! I’d saved for those boots.

I can see why that would be devastating to you as a child. It was a long fall for you. You should treat yourself to some new ones.

25 years ago I had a Saturday job as a Viewing Assistant for an Estate Agents. I used the company car for viewings. One quiet Saturday the diary was empty, someone came in and wanted to see a property. It was vacant and we had keys. So I arranged to meet them there in half an hour. I didn't put it in the diary, just didn't think to. The property was on the right hand side of the exit from the local shopping centre's car park onto the main road and just past it there was a slip road on the right which also met the main road. As I got close to the property a car pulled out of the slip road without stopping and crashed into me. Apart from a dented bumper all was well, he apologised, we exchange details and I went on to my viewing. I got back to the office and logged the crash with the insurer. The insurer came back a few weeks later to say that I had come out of the car park without looking and crashed into him. With no witnesses and nothing in the diary to say that I had been on a viewing, my boss decided that I'd been shopping in my lunchbreak and sacked me on the spot for lying about what had happened. It still really pisses me off, I am an honest person and hate the fact that he thought that I would do that.

When I was in primary school my mum got me a set of Lip Smacker glosses for my birthday.

My favourite was the candy floss scent, so I took it to school with me and used it throughout the day (basically to lick it off again.)

One Friday my 'friend' asked to borrow it so she could show it to her mum so she'd know which one to buy.

'Friend' gave it back to me on the Monday and it was empty, with the wand all chewed up (physically chewed.) I was devastated.

Still fuming to this day. She had the cheek to ask to borrow another flavour too the cow!

More recently; I lent a friend some money (only £45, but still) because she was struggling with bills and needed to buy food.

I told her to just give it back when she had it spare.

Saw her on the school run the next morning playing online casino games. She said she was trying to win the money back, and had put £100 in so far. Cheeky cow.

Decades ago a boyfriend asked me to come over (about a 30 min drive from my flat) and asked if I would mind picking up some drink on the way. I duly did as asked. Once I’d turned up with the whiskey, he took it with no offer of reimbursement, said he was tired, and did I mind going home as he needed an early night? Basically using me as Uber Eats (which didn’t exist at the time). f*ck me I nearly married the twat. I found some self respect and eventually binned him but am still unreasonably pissed off at him being such a CF. I should be grateful that I saw who he was for the price of a bottle but the whiskey wasn’t cheap… 😆

Thank you @Renamed and @Theextraordinaryisintheordinary, you’re very kind

I have allowed myself to buy any art supplies I fancy as an adult and I try my best to listen to my children and understand their disappointment even if it doesn’t seem significant to the adult me.

I feel like I should be able to get over it now - a lovely life with little to complain about - but you hit the nail on the head @Renamed when you said unpopularity at school never leaves you.

We got married 20 years ago in a beautiful resort in Europe. My husband had never wanted a big wedding here and I was quite happy to fly out with a load of close friends and we all had a week on an island on an all inclusive holiday. We paid for absolutely everything for everyone to go out as we’d never have expected our guests to pay for theirselves and although it sounds extravagant it actually cost us what most people would probably pay for a wedding and honeymoon here.

I know you shouldn’t expect anything at your wedding and we didn’t even have a wedding list because we felt it was cheeky but 2 of our guests never even gave us so much as a wedding card and it still annoys me when I think about it.

slipperypenguin , hopefully someone has drowned her in a vat of tomato ketchup!!!!

I lent Sally my A-Ha LP and brought it to school in a Miss Selfridge bag and she returned it in a Woolworth's bag.

I didn’t have much cash as a teenager and mostly bought second hand clothing from charity shops. I did splash out on a lovely dress on one occasion and my friend who had been going through a difficult time called to visit.
I persuaded her to join me and a group of friends on a night out but she said she had nothing to wear. I offered to lend her a dress and of course she chose my new unworn dress to borrow. I wasn’t happy but agreed she could borrow it as I felt sorry for her.
she actually wore it a few times and then returned it. I called for her on the next night out and when she opened the door she was wearing my dress. I was taken aback and said ‘Oh, I thought you’d returned that’. She said that she’d returned my dress but had liked it so much she bought one of her own. I then noticed it was a slightly different shade of blue to mine. (The skirt of the dress was flowery with a royal blue background on mine and a more turquoise colour on hers).
it was a very distinctive dress and of course she wore it to every event and night out for the next 6 months. I felt I couldn’t wear mine as we would be dressed almost the same.
eventually I wore it to the pub when I was going out with two other friends and we ran into another mutual friend. This friend berated me for buying the same dress as ‘Sally’ especially as she’d been having a hard time and was broke. I told her that I’d bought the dress first but hadn’t had a chance to wear it for the reasons above. She said ‘really…?’ and it was obvious she didn’t believe me.
I ended up hating the sight of the dress and gave it to charity. Over 40 years later, I’m still annoyed.

thats so sad! 😔

Friend of mine was engaged with kids but he drank the family money away
I was a skint single mum but had managed to squirrel £80 away-all the money I had in the world
She asked if she could borrow £50 so she could feed the kids that night or they'd go hungry
I lent her the money and watched her go into the shop,but as I turned to walk away,something made me stop and turn back round
She came out with £50 worth of beer and denied she'd borrowed any money off me the following week
I refused to speak to her so a few weeks later,she sent her cousin round to see if I would 'lend' him £20 (I knew it would go straight to her) and refused
I was the big bad bitch for 'letting her kids go hungry' apparently
Oh,and then she married her bloke and he's still pissing away the family money away in the pub

Mine are all wedding related!

My friend who was the bride accidentally left her (artificial) bouquet at the wedding reception by accident when she left the venue at the end of her wedding day. I picked it up and looked after it for her for when she got back from her honeymoon. I phoned her when she got back and said I've got your bouquet! She was really pleased and said please could you drop it round to my Mum's if you're passing (her Mum's was nearer to where I lived at the time). I did so and her Mum tore me off a strip at the front door, angrily going on and on about how worried she'd been for two weeks and why the heck hadn't I told her I had it! I had no idea she even knew my friend had forgotten it. Didn't even thank me; just shut the door in my face. It still irks me more than 25 years on!

My father in law whilst "helping" us move, found my wedding bouquet which I'd carefully preserved and presuming it to be rubbish, chucked it in the skip outside. Also when I was on my honeymoon, my Mum was "looking after" my wedding dress. She let her cat sleep on it and the cat ripped the veil to bits, and she used my tiara in a Halloween outfit and it came back with a red veil sewn on to it. I don't have much luck with wedding bouquets or similar! 😂 🤣

Ahhh…..karma!!!! 🤣🤣🤣