Aibu to be annoyed with friend

[Girlmummyx]

So I lent a friend money as her electric went and I felt sorry for the kids ever since then all shes done is ask for stuff I have said no I haven't got it as I haven't I am a hardworking. Mother of 3 who is also struggling but felt sorry for the kids friend doesn't work anyways each time it's come to paying it back there's aways some excuse with her money hasn't gone in or she's been sanctioned I know this is rubbish as her kids are still young and under 2 I know you don't have any work commitments with children that age aibu to think she's taking the mick just avoiding paying me back and taking the mickey

YANBU. Have you lent to her more than once and have you had anything back?

It goes without saying to not lend her money again.

Hope it's not too much money, as it sounds like you probably won't get it back.

Just say no and keep saying no. She doesn't sound much of a friend if she borrows money and doesn't pay you back.

Finally got it back I wont be lending again . Friend keeps asking for money every day now and I get blanked for saying no sage to say I know this is a one sided friendship

Great that she has returned the money. Sounds a very sad situation, she’s clearly struggling but you’re not in a position to help, She seems to be asking a lot from your friendship.

She's getting quite a lot of money in benefits from what she's told me a lot more than I earn .If it was a genuine struggle I wouldn't have been so bothered. But she's always got cigarettes for her. Self and always manages to get take aways every other day .

How long have you known her? She doesn't really sound like a friend, more a taker. I would be pointing out to her that if she has money for fags and take aways she's actually not skint just bad with priorities...and hang the consequences.

4 years now and this is why i was annoyed only seem to hear when she needs something . I feel For the kids is why i helped but it's getting regular thing now asking for money and i can't do it as i am a single mother with 3 kids .

Agreed I had this with a friend in our friend group when I was 18. It’s a dealbreaker tbh

She really is not your friend, she's using you. What do you get from being acquainted with her?

I was asked for money by a family friend (hollow laugh, we haven't a pot to piss in), and I refused and explained that we don't have it. A couple of weeks later she asked again, so I blocked her. If asked why, I shall say that I am on disability benefits, and it upsets me being asked for money. That I don't have.

Glad you got your money back.

My DH lent a friend quote a bit of money over two years ago and we’ve now had to go down a legal route and threaten to pursue bankruptcy to get him to start repaying the loan. It’s been a nightmare.

@MamaWeasel I think I may try that .That way I won't be bombarded with messages all the time .

@StormingNorman thank you it's always pulls my heart strings with the kids but then I think I have kids aswell to provide for. I really hope you get all of your money back soon .

Just say no and ignore messages if she continues asking