Book to explain OCD to DH

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Apologies for reposting this here but I didn’t have any replies on the Mental Health section, so I thought that I should try again here where there is more traffic…

Hi, I really need help with this. Adult DS has ASD, Learning Difficulties and now OCD. He lives with us at home. The OCD developed during COVID and has stayed ever since. DS and I get along well and I try to help him with his OCD using gentle humour and kindness. This approach seems to work quite well.
Unfortunately DH simply doesn’t understand OCD at all. He makes me angry because he won’t adapt his behaviour to help DS and sometimes uses sarcasm, which in my view is very unhelpful.
This really upsets me because DH has so many good qualities and is disabled and housebound himself. He does praise DS frequently for the help that he gives us, but seems to have a blindspot about OCD.
So, please don’t tell me to LTB! But instead could you point me towards books that could clearly explain OCD to him. Websites won’t be useful as he is a complete technophobe! Even if books don’t work, they would at least give me some more information that would help me to explain things and also to handle DS in better ways.

TIA

OCD for dummies?

What about family therapy rather than a book? The former gives you all the opportunity to express how you feel and listen to each other in a moderated environment; the latter can come across as a bit instructive and haughty, and make some people buckle down on their viewpoint.

He makes me angry because he won’t adapt his behaviour to help DS

My understanding of OCD is that the people around the person with the disorder shouldn’t adapt their own behaviour, as it isn’t helpful and can validate the obsessiveness. If DS’s psychiatrist thinks that you should be, can you and DH meet with them together so DH understands why?

@Bubblebuttress is there really a book in that series? I need something fairly short and to the point so DH will actually read it! Thanks for replying!

www.ocduk.org/product-category/books/

Try here these are approved by OCD UK

@ComtesseDeSpair thank you for your helpful reply. One of the problems is that DH and I are both housebound. Another is that he doesn’t really believe in counselling!

Also, unfortunately he is rude to DS about his OCD. It’s not just about adapting. I think that he might respond better if he reads something.

Now I have made him look like a right twat! He’s lovely and supportive about everything else.

@Phase2 thank you for the link. I will have a look as soon as I can.