Completely shafted over in the christmas rota

[Mysticcatmum]

I work in a call centre

Everyone has to work 2 out of the 3 bank holidays, I put in my preferred date of Xmas off

I have been scheduled to work Xmas day, new years eve and day

I then have the parents of toddlers asking me to cover their Christmas eve shifts as I am 'childless'. I have found out that the same people do infact have off Xmas day

Apologies, more of a rant but AIBU to be sick of the mentality of 'christmas is for kids'?! Despite me adoring the holiday

No advise but I used to take on all the Xmas shifts before I had a child. We would celebrate on a different day but then we aren't religious.

Not really The parent could be really sneaky and get OP to work Christmas Eve then phone in "sick" on Christmas Day so OP gets the call to still come in. Seen it in RL in the past and on a thread here last year..........that time it was Christmas nursing home shifts

You simply cannot defend that view in the work context. Quite apart from being offensive and insulting to those who don't have children, as I said before, it's a minefield. Would you honestly say to someone who had had a child die and who was due Christmas Day off but was being pressured to cover it, or who asked for it off, 'Christmas is absolutely more important for kids'? Would you say to someone who had been through multiple miscarriages, or someone who ran out of time fertility-wise because they never found the right partner, who was being 'indignant' about working Christmas Day, that they were being awkward for the sake of it?

No, not projecting anything; I've never worked in a workplace where this was an issue. I just like the word cunt and find it appropriate for people who try to tell those without children that they need to accommodate the desires of those who do.

You've only been asked, not forced.
For all they know you may be happy to. If they don't ask, they don't get.
You can say no.

Spot on, I have been responsible for managing staff rotas and everyone needs to be treated fairly. It is unfair of people to assume that they have these BHs off because they have young children. When my child was young I had to participate in BH rotas , that's just how it is

My dad died last month so my elderly mum has been widowed after 59 years. Im not currently working but if i was would you really expect me to leave my mum on her own on Christmas Day just because i havent got living proof that ive had sex without contraception?! While im also grieving for my dad and missing him terribly

And yes parents are only parents of YOUNG children for a short time but once Dianes children are older then Sarah who has young kids starts at the workplace and then child free Jane has to give way to her and so on and so on.

She’s not. She is only working 2 of them, out of 3. Like everyone else. She just wants special treatment I guess 🤷‍♀️

😳Jeez, if that manager had said that to me, I would have fired something back and it wouldn't have been pleasent!

That's fine for you to feel that way, but maybe OP knows she won't be having children and is reluctant to commit to never having Christmas off for her entire working life. She's working her required two bank hols including Christmas Day itself, no need for her to be feeling guilty over being off on Christmas Eve.

But this isn’t institutional unfairness or pro-parent bias: it’s just some people chancing their arms. You can say no.

Well @Demonhunter i guess the carol singers who go to nursing homes shouldnt bother then They should go to the nurseries instead 🙄

I think you have indeed been shafted and I don't understand everyone saying you haven't.🤔
Your working xmas day, new years eve and new years day right.
Your manager has been really unfair to you. The fairest way (we do this in our workplace) is if you work xmas day, you get new year off and vice versa.
Simple
If you get xmas day off 1 year you work it the next
Simple

Time to start job searching?

Hi Fitz Doesnt surprise me that you are rotd on again while she gets her 9th off

But everyone is working 2 of the 3 bank holidays (Christmas Day, Boxing Day, NY Day).

Their policy is not "you either work Christmas or new year".

"Shafted" implies she's been treated worse than others. But it doesn't sound like she has (unless she is put on Christmas Day every year).

Everyone is saying she hasn't been shafted as everyone has to work 2 out of 3 bank holidays. She is working the same number of BHs as everyone else, and exactly the number promised

The bank holidays are Christmas Day, Boxing Day and NYD.

She is working two, Christmas Day and NYD, just like everyone else is working 2. She has Boxing Day off. It's her doing her fair share and not her being shafted.

She has Christmas Eve off, but is working NYE. Neither of these are bank holidays, but working 1/2 seems fair enough.

Personally, I think the people getting the worst deal are those allocated Xmas Day and Boxing Day as their two BHs to work. And even worse if they don't have Xmas Eve off either.

OP - You are someone's child - I'd argue (whether true or not) that your parent(s) want to spend christmas eve with you.
But also as others have said, offer to swap christmas eve for christmas day!
Said as a parent, being a parent doesn't automatically mean we should get the important days off if our jobs otherwise require it.
My mum was a nurse and I remember multiple christmas' when she was working and we were home with dad/grandparents. I survived!

This used to happen to me a lot. My answer was simple, “Yes I’ll work Xmas Eve for you if you do my Xmas Day”, or similar

Just to clear it up, I work as a 111 call advisor

Can you clear up how you’ve been shafted? Have you never been given Xmas day off, so you’re annoyed you’re working it yet again? Because that’s the only reason I can see that you could claim they’ve been unfair. You’re working 2 of the bank holidays like everyone else.

They haven't NYE is not a BH boxing day is

Working 2 of 3 means either

Xmas/Boxing
Xmas /NYD
Bixing/ NYD

To be fair there is not much scope any way

So all of your colleagues took this job knowing that they may have to work Christmas !

I don’t know why some people think that they are entitled to it off.

i am a nurse and every other year i have to do Christmas yet I have one colleague assumes that he should be the one to have Christmas off every year, not even because of his kids, he just feels it’s his right.

People will take the piss , don’t let them think that they have any right over you to have these days off.

Whilst it's a drag to have to work over Christmas & NY, and I get you must be disappointed not to get neither off... someone has to. Should be that if you don't get your choice of day off last year, then you get your chosen day this year, etc.

But from what the OP has said no one is expecting the days off over her. She would have known it was 2 out of the 3 bank holidays when she took on the job. That's all she's being expected to do. And I don't see an issue with colleagues asking if anyone wants to cover their shifts.