To find it so difficult to switch off from my teens?

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I've 4. 14-19.

The eldest two (19 and 17) seem to be flim-flammimg around, wasting opportunities, idling, entitled, ungrateful little
sh!ts.

We try to give them opportunities, encouragement...

They're terrible with money, tired (late nights and crap diet) and generally unpleasant.

How do you switch off? I let it wind me up and it ends in an argument. It eats away at me. When they're nice, they're lovely. When they're not, well, my heart actually aches.

They're not bad people. To everyone else, they're great. They've just no direction and the entitlement is a joke.

Thanks for listening.

Great advice. Thanks all. I'll share with DH, too.

Hi Op
It can be really tough, the stupid and risky stuff they do is absolutely soul destroying and literally hurts your heart when you have raised them not to be idiots.
My 21 year old can be lovely but having him home all summer was not great for either of us
They want to be independent but act like arseholes at home!
The phrase treating home like a hotel springs to mind!
Apparently it gets better once they are fully independent with mortgage, bills and family to care for etc!

Another one for the miserable parent club 👋 I'm so sad my lovely children have disappeared. DH and I look back at photos and videos and wonder why these total strangers have replaced them. We've ended up estranged but still hold out hope things will change once the realities of life take hold. It's just so utterly depressing 😞